Struggling with Teenagers and Mess: How Can I Get My Kids to Clean Up After Themselves?

My mum put a bedroom in the middle everything was piled if she could lift the beds up they would of been in the pile took ages to get it all put where it should be also don't give them money stop all that and if they want not needed then don't buy it go on stroke with all there needs and wants apart from the obvious food and water can't make a mess then also stop there phones when they rub out of data soon come running and mum ain't going to be a walk over
 
I'd stop paying their phone bill , and stop any pocket money for a month , its not acceptable to behave so disrespectfully and rude . I'd give them a list of chores and rules tht need completed/ kept to in order for phone and money to t
Restart , also I'd make chores a regular part of their jobs at home, my 2 teens do quite alot not for money but because we are a family and all have to do our bit .
 
Take chargers and change the WiFi password. Make them work to earn their things back, why should they get given things when you have to work for them in the first place x
 
If they have phones - stop paying for them. Turn the Wi-Fi off (believe me it works when they have no phone to use)
You’ve got to show them who is boss!! Oh and if you venture into their bedroom/s anything on the floor is fair game. It’s up to you if it’s sold, donated or binned. Let them know at the start of the week what you are going to do - you’ve got to play fair. After that it’s tough titty!!!
 
Take their phones at night and change the wifi password. Ive just done this to my 10 year old who has been late for school every morning refusing to get dressed, not wanting to go. Today is the first day we are on track to be on time.
 
I go with family team work. We are a team that sticks together. Once/twice a week I ask them to do '15minutes of madness' with me. We all choose a job or an area, then we set an alexa timer and everyone does a job so fast.
I tell them that I wanna chill too and I want to spend Sunday afternoon lazing around too. Its unfair that I have to clean for hours or we all share and do 15 minutes together.
Works for us, I started doing that last year and now I can occasionally say it after tea (we always sit together at the table) you do dishwasher, you do clearing table, you do the sides.
Yes I'll still be cleaning for about 40 minutes because I'll still have extra washing to do.
I never confiscate, or yell. I simply ask for their help to help their mother. Because mama wants to chill too.
Works for our family
 
Give them their own plate bowl and cutlery and they are responsible for it. Also one towel each and have to do their own washing. If there's nothing to serve their dinner in then they have to wash their stuff up or they don't get fed
 
Same here. In addition when I would get my teens to do something I would have to redo it because of how poorly it was done. This ending up in giving me twice as much work.
Lately I created a log for them to fill out and pay them to do the work. Each core has its value. It seems to work 😂 Let's see for how long this trick lasts and if I do not go bankrupt in the process. There are also penalties for leaving a mess. If I find shoes, sweaters dumpt on the floor... I know whose they are. I pick up and add a penalty on the log.
 
I give mine a budget for everything except school uniform and school shoes. They have to buy their own clothes, makeup, shampoo etc. if they don’t tow the line and do their bit I stop it
 
Put time limits on their mobile phones so you can control when they are allowed on, I have this with mine. Also if things are not put away they go in the bin. Mine have to help out and keep things tidy to earn time on their PlayStation, phones, play out etc.
 
Oh wow, I could have wrote this… I have exactly the same aged kids with addition of a 4 & 11 year old also… constantly chasing my tail, & frustrated with the laziness.
I will also welcome the tips & info, as phones/technology are the devil yet we really do limit it. 😬
 
Stick and carrot mostly. Always being consistent and sharing that approach with my partner. Consistently calling them back to the crime area to clean up whatever debacle they havef left behind. Also, talking to them individually about why you would like the house to be tidy, ask them their feelings about why they don't and go from there. In packs they can be a***holes but individually you usually get some great insight that helps and helps to bring more of an understanding between you. Then for extreme cases removing pocket money, WiFi access (change the password), restricting phone data (you can do this on most mobile providers website against the SIM). But there needs to be individual talks and get the older ones to pull muster!
 
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