Struggling with Teenagers and Mess: How Can I Get My Kids to Clean Up After Themselves?

[fallenangel93]

Kids these days think thier intitled .. brought up everything been done for them till they get to a age where they shld be able to help out and do chores my son is 17 and he will do nothing the cheek I get off him is very hard to take sometimes I need to walk away from him as he's old enough for a good slap . As for my 10yr old he is amazing wouled do anything he's asked to do and at the end of the week I give him pocket money for doing his chores , if my 17yr old does nothing he gets nothing ,defo not being harsh I'm being very strict and showing him tht u work hard ul earn

 

[newnature]

This is so sad hope things improve for you x

 

[remar]

If ur paying for there phone then stop and if it is on a contract then take them off the perminatly until they start to do as there asked ive got an app on my kids phones nearly 15 and nearly 14yr old phones that they can't take off because it is password protected but it means I block there phone when they don't do as they have been asked

 

[shaderun4]

@remar what is the app

 

[remar]

@shaderun4 quostodio

 

[rpmissions]

Ask, nag, ground, take phone, remove WiFi then TV. Most of the time we don't get that far anymore. However she knows if I take her phone, the next steps so we don't usually get to that stage anymore x

 

[rizzle]

My lot get 2 warnings to do their rooms. Then anything on the floor gets picked up, washed and folded then donated to the op shop. Shoes, clothes and toys. Any electronics, games and headsets get confiscated. I also take the modem. When the house is sparkling they earn their gear back by extra chores and limited wifi.

 

[sonofmatthew]

Do u pay for all there data on there phones, I'm guessing so.... So stop paying ! No phones means no data. My oldest was the same I rang EE up and they put a total block on her phone. Told I hadn't paid the bill till she could behave and clean up after herself

 

[ambience]

Stop speaking to them... just be calm and quiet.. that freaks them out.. like holy shit she isn't losing the plot! A change in how you react to their behaviours will freak them out

 

[seandon0691]

@ambience this

 

[slo96]

@ambience totally agree on this change tactics it shocks them into reality. If they are use to you shouting and stomping they just take it as the norm. The silent testament is scary. Plus it uses less energy.

 

[fence]

2 warning to clean their room and then everything that's not in its place gets thrown into a bag and thrown away. I dont care what it is. They soon learnt that if I went upstairs with a bag in hand it meant trouble.

 

[fundisi]

Smart phone was swapped for ‘green and red button’ phone, did bring about semi compliance, especially when they realised that they were facing losing losing their ‘streaks’ on Snapchat

 

[jesusislord18]

@fundisi I threatened my eldest with my old Nokia. She said it’d get broken. I had to explain that the old Nokias could be jumped on by elephants then taken for a swim and it’d restart so she didn’t need to worry!

 

[gyny]

We use a cane and when they don't do as they are told we whip them. We have a jail cell in the garden to they get sent out there with no food water or jacket for 3 days at time.
We used to have 6 kids but one was just untrainable so that went on the black market amazing the money yiu get for them even when wee shits.
The other 5 they have been trained now but we keep the retractable leash on them just incase.

 

[zetlander]

Take.the phones and keep them away until they change their ways, maybe they don't bother to start with but it will in time! You need to set rules and boundaries and stick to them, talk to them don't shout help them understand how much its effecting you and they wont have anything back until things change your past being angry now your just sad at their behaviour and watch them change over the weeks without their entitlements goodluck x

 

[roxylink]

i installed an app on my kids phone for parental controls, when they 1st got them at like 10/11 so they didnt argue. now when they dont play ball i can remotely block their phone with no fighting or arguing trying to get their phones off them. its amazing how much gets done to get it unblocked again.
for now you need to tell them help or you will stop helping them ie paying for stuff they need like their phones, days out pocket money. dont do their washing etc they will soon realise they cant do without u

 

[suwon11]

I had to check that you didn't write this post @babtist1982 after tonight x

 

[eb231]

Option: Remote device lock with parental supervision software. Or set screentime limit. Its possible with ios or android

 

[evanr1]

Block the phones hide charging cables not the phones it’s easier to get them. Don’t cook for them and definitely don’t give them money. Mine I tell them rooms to be cleaned to my satisfaction or I’ll come and help them. They don’t want me nosing through their stuff so they clean their rooms.