Struggling with Teenagers and Mess: How Can I Get My Kids to Clean Up After Themselves?

[catholicsoxfan]

You could try to not let it get you down. So much is changing in their bodies and their hormonal changes can make them tired. Also they've had years of a school routine. Maybe they just need to chill for a while. Also talk them like you would a friend and ask if they would help you out by keeping their room tired and you'd really appreciate it and thank them. They're changing from being your child to being an individual and you have to adapt too. I hope this helps. It taught me alot and the most difficult time.

 

[ramblerambler]

Stick to one thing ,so the teck goes and don't give it back till they have lurned, this could be a week or more but don't give in ,they will kick up a stink but it's there own folt. These age groups like to push boundaries and they do not care if we did not need to tidy up or want to and like to wind our parents up then we would to , in a world that has lots of teck now. I would still let have there phone for safety outside the house but not at home bye phone and teck, and can also ground them as they have no phone and there chorse are not done then need to do that first. There is always go Henry as well to reward then when they finally done the house you don't even need to put alot on there , I only put some on my sons as our daughter has additional needs so he does more then my other children. Can talk to the oldest children sitting them down and have a serious conversation with them and see if they listen. But I would say teck is the way and going out treats etc.

 

[onlyhuman09]

Don't bother taking phones or internet away. Take their charger cables for everything. And watch their faces when they get to 20% Nd realise that they really fu***** up

 

[brontosaurusrex]

@onlyhuman09 ohhh, love this one. May do it with the husbands too.

 

[onlyhuman09]

@brontosaurusrex I have three daughters. Tried the take phones/ tablets /consoles. Literally needed a whole cupboard just for their electric stuff. Taking just the cables..less than a carrier bag! Aaaannd you get the benefit of watching them untangle the spaghetti it makes! So much easier and more fun !! Lol

 

[brontosaurusrex]

My eldest 2 are grown up and left home now. But years ago I swapped out my sons x box for hos old broken one, he wouldn't tidy his room so threw it out of the bedroom windowin a hissy fit. Major melt down by the boy and a tidy bedroom for quite a while. And miraculously I managed to fix the x box after he earned it back.

 

[stria]

Okay 15 and 16 yr old sound like they need a serious kick up the arse. Clean up or clear out. (kick them out) if they cnt respect the 2 people who raised them feed them etc then get the fook out ur house. Sounds harsh but trust me follow through with it and they will soon come bk tails between there legs and cleaning up after themselves..
Either that or go around with a black bag daily binning anything that isn't out away. They will soon get pissed off with sifting through wheelie bin every day for their stuff. Tough love.
Ur not alone hun I have a 19yr old lad living here who is abit like it. They do get better in time. The 2 younger ones will learn from the two older ones xx

 

[fredconk]

I pick up their stuff and put it in a box and sell it back to them at a prime style mark up

 

[loveisfirst]

Feel your pain and i just have 2

 

[chirpyluna]

Don’t pay their contracts.

 

[northstar86]

Cut there phones off, take all their clothes except the most embarrassing things, take all good away except beans and lentils water .Go in hard on the brats!!

 

[confusedxx]

Wow why do I feel like iv just wrote this post?! I have 5 similar ages 2 x 17 14 11 & 9 the 9 year old does more than the rest to help me iv took money away phones Internet stopped cleaning and they just don't care they come down make food leave all the mess and go back to bed I end up going mad as I feel like I'm running a bnb I stop cooking they will have toast or a microwave meal obviously the older ones as i dont expect the younger to cook they are so lazy they will message me if I'm out to ask when I'm back to cook for them iv given up all I ask is they help around the house but apparently none of their friends have to & I'm the adult so I should do it! It gets to me as I'm the same they weren't brought up like this they just seem to think they are entitled!

 

[carlose88]

@confusedxx word for word me with my daughter even just 10 mins ago

 

[dasmaedchen2]

I feel your pain! Mum to 8 here - 25, 21,14, 12 & 7 still at home and only my youngest does things to help! I’ve spent two solid days ripping my downstairs apart and cleaning tidying etc I bet by tomorrow it will be a shit pit again! It’s non stop here coz tomorrow I’m upstairs the. I’ll be downstairs again #passthewine

 

[mombright]

WiFi code changed until chores are done, simple

 

[jacqueline9423]

I soon learnt when my mum took my things but she only took the plugs the chargers and cables and the remotes, now that messed me up even more because I had all my gadgets but was unable to use them. I thought I would be funny and use my friends chargers but it didn't work and I learnt very fast to stop being a nasty bitch and grow up and show respect. My prized possession was my straightners at that time and my god she took those and I cried for days but after that I changed my behaviour for the better and then I got my stuff back ... after 6 weeks though we are the kids not the friends and when we think as our parents as friends we stop treating them as parents and just act like little fuckers. I do hope this faze will pass for you xx

 

[cottagegirl]

Oh I know and I sympathise love from another parent at their wits end x

 

[stldad]

It’s a generational thing. Instant gratification and I’ve seen it evolve with you kids and it’s heart wrenching

 

[sunjo]

Oh goodness I hated the teenage years with my son it was a constant battle. He's grown up now but I remember telling him he was grounded but he'd go out if I was out so I put all his shoes in a black bag and took them out with me, the only thing was he wore his sister's trainer 2 sizes to small and want out but got blisters. I was determined not to give in to him though although it wears you down. One thing is they will get older.

 

[rtp76]

I have slowly been asking my son for help “would you mind” etc. he is now doing more and more and cooked tea tonight!