Struggling as an Introvert: Anyone Else Feeling Lonely and Finding It Hard to Make Friends?
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burialchoice
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Just thought that if you are an introvert and find it difficult to make friends that church people would be easier on you as many are in the same position
@marc16 if the church runs a 'messy church' club for the children, usually one evening then that can be a lovely thing to go to. I never went to church and I'm not religious but I very much enjoyed taking my daughter along to these evenings where she could do crafts, a food activity, some singing and then we all sat together to eat a meal.
I'm an introvert and for some reason have made lo friends,people just don't seem to want to connect with me!Which I don't understand as I have a partner who loves me for who I am and sometimes I'm impossible. But I'm likeable I think I've just been unfortunate.I've lost confidence and practically given up.Grateful to being independent and I can enjoy having a coffee on my own!I live in Gran Canary now otherwise would love to meet up.x
@omatrisha this is like me. Wow gran canary how amazing x
I wish chat groups like this were around when I was in my 20's! I was quite shy and missed out on a lot because of it, would have been great to be able to connect with people that way rather than forcing myself to go to parties then sometimes going home again having hardly spoken and feeling like a failure! I went to an organised dance once where NOBODY asked me to dance, it was so humiliating! I wasn't hideous, must have just looked terrified and put them off! It got better as I got older and didn't care so much. I wonder if others felt the same back then but just didn't have these forums to talk about it?
@slade1995 yes me. I'm 32 and have had no friends since leaving college so iv rarely communicate with any adults since my very early 20s
exgamerlegends
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There's a group ... Ladies who Chatter UK group ... they do local meet ups in different areas
creflodollar
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I live alone, single, kids are grown, no friends. I’ve got used to it and I keep busy but do wish I had someone to talk to sometimes.
I do think it’s harder as you get older.
I do think it’s harder as you get older.
itzelmetal
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I used to have a good group of friends, in my teens, early 20s through to late 20s. Most moved abroad or away, or I moved away. I had so many friends that were, not like really close but we're pub mates, club mates. As I grew up and had kids and all my really close mates moved away, one or two I grew apart from. The only close mates I have now are my Sister and my Boyfriend. The rest are acquaintances but good ones. No one I can call up for a chat though, or pop round their house. I don't make good friend's easily now. I don't feel I'm as likable as I was when I was younger (and thats okay), my patience is thinner and I'm not as positive about life and the world I live in. I enjoy my own company more and I'm happy the way it is tbh
I struggle and have done since being a kid, never had a close friend, very sporty in every club and sports team but a bit of a loner when it cane to women/girls...and strangely I was always fine with that as I prefer my own company. I'm 38 now...I have one great friend now however. I struggle with people's drama its exhausting for me...he said she said, processing it all baffles me, a women for example being badly treated by a man or another friend...but still going back to it only to go through it all again...all the never ending cycle of emotion and reluctance to address it head on, I just can't cope....its all very black and white in my head...so I always think it must be my choice not to fit in...because I avoid people who thrive on drama , and everyone seems too 
...I don't enjoy social drinks , I never have mum friends in the playground, but in the army I thrived and in my current work I'm the only women in the office managing 120 male steelworkers....and I love it and I love their company, men are so easy to get along with, to chat too to and have a laugh with. So I have lots of male friends...but female friends are few an far between.
...I don't enjoy social drinks , I never have mum friends in the playground, but in the army I thrived and in my current work I'm the only women in the office managing 120 male steelworkers....and I love it and I love their company, men are so easy to get along with, to chat too to and have a laugh with. So I have lots of male friends...but female friends are few an far between.Totally get this! I get anxiety when going out in public too. My partner works long 12hour rotating shifts so makes it difficult to join any clubs or anything! I did join a ladies kickboxing group last year though and although I’ve not made ‘friends’ as such, it’s such a lovely group where everyone is always friendly and will have a chat. I don’t manage to go every week because of my partner’s shifts but I can catch up at another venue, which I found quite scary initially but there is always someone to partner up with. I think so many of us women are in exactly the same position, and being at home with the kids, you kind of lose yourself.
I would also add that I take my two children to an after school club at the local baptist church once a week, they get a free home cooked meal and do some crafts etc, and there are quite a few mums a lot younger than me that go. It’s a bit of a break from cooking and also nice to have a chat with other mums who are all feeling the same
I would also add that I take my two children to an after school club at the local baptist church once a week, they get a free home cooked meal and do some crafts etc, and there are quite a few mums a lot younger than me that go. It’s a bit of a break from cooking and also nice to have a chat with other mums who are all feeling the same
sparrow1984
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I don't know how old your kiddies are but I was the same, still am but better than I was. Take them to some kids groups check the local area for cheap or free ones, I would go as I knew it was good for the kids. You can meet people that way.
School mums aren't all that bad you just have to find your group, I wasn't really friends with anyone in my daughters class but I have a great group with my son who started 3 yrs after her. Maybe join the schools PTA, they are normally greatful for new faces and help xx
Just take a leap of faith one day in the playground and talk to the parent of one of the kids your kid plays with even if it just a oh hi are you so n so mum, I just wanted to say that your little really help mine the other afte they fell or my kid says that they love playtime with yours etc xx
School mums aren't all that bad you just have to find your group, I wasn't really friends with anyone in my daughters class but I have a great group with my son who started 3 yrs after her. Maybe join the schools PTA, they are normally greatful for new faces and help xx
Just take a leap of faith one day in the playground and talk to the parent of one of the kids your kid plays with even if it just a oh hi are you so n so mum, I just wanted to say that your little really help mine the other afte they fell or my kid says that they love playtime with yours etc xx