blundercreek
New member
Have you told them that you suffer with mental mental health and a mess if a nightmare for you, it might work
good luck though
good luck though
Struggling with Teenagers and Mess: How Can I Get My Kids to Clean Up After Themselves?
- Thread starter jjoseph
- Start date
strangematter
New member
Following hoping for tips because I could write this myself! Also didnt think id raised them to be this way but I'm hoping it's just teenage behaviour that will subside as they get older 
I have a 18, 16, 15 and twin 9 year Olds what I do if they leave there stuff around I bin it, also I tell them if they want pocket money I will give them £30 a month each if every day they do at least 1 chore in the house, as for phones mine know if they don't hand it over not only will they be grounded but I will smash one of there other valued possessions up, it took a while for them to realise I'm the adult and they will listen but it works
If its not in its place chuck it in a black sack outside...switch off WiFi. It seems they are all wasting so much time on gadgets. My brother was rhe worst...having to keep going outside to retrieve his stuff really wound him up...so mum said it's annoying isn't it when things aren't to hand...he learnt!!
princessbella
New member
I nealy lost the plot yesterday so I got all their crap (absolutely everything that wasn't in its place) and piled it all up on their beds .... I took their phones tablets ect and didn't have it till it was all away (mean maybe but there's 7 children in my house) it worked a treat ..... untill next time mwahahahaha
andrew_nguyen1980
New member
@princessbella did that. 2 weeks later it’s back to how it was before 
princessbella
New member
@blundercreek as nice as this thought is it dosnt work, I tried this with mine and explained I have ocd and how it makes me feel, I had to start binning there stuff and breaking toys for them to start respecting and listening to me I tried everything before that
blundercreek
New member
@blundercreek it really is and in this day and age you have to baby your kids, wrap them in cotton wool and any form of disapline is now aparently abusive, but will I hell be walked over by my kids they will be raised with respect for me, others and most of all themselves
mom2preston
New member
My 14/15 yr old has FINALLY started to help! Her finding a boyfriend has improved her attitude a lot! She will clean up her room and put the dishes away.she doesn’t want to him to think she is a slob!
Put locks on the cupboards and the fridge and unplug the internet. Throw all their rubbish back in their rooms and shut the door. Don’t scream, shout or argue. Just be polite and say “when you’re ready to make a deal on a chore rota, come and speak to me”. Harsh but you need to take a hard stance here to get them to at least listen. You hold the cards as you pay for everything. If they don’t play ball, just lock everything down and switch stuff off. Am sure you and hubby will enjoy some quiet time with each other or a book until they get their acts together xx
markbucket
New member
Seriously I have a 16 and 15 year old at home aswell they are old enough to understand what theu are doing to you and how it is effecting you. As for the mobile data do you not pay for this aswell? If so stop get them a pay as you go and when its run out of credit they have to earn the next voucher by doing chores. My kids have to do things at home its part of the daily life they will be going into the real world soon so better now to learn how hard it really is. You don't need to be intimidating just be a parent, its your house and what you say goes. We have a family meeting once a month and everyone gets to air their problems or concerns maybe try that and make it clear that things are gonna change Good luck to you.
Honestly this is the WORST place to ask for advice. We have the worst generation of parents that wrap children up in cotton wool and most kids are now complete assholes!!! Every other child has some form of adh or autism, they couldn't possibly just be naughty because of 'gentle parenting that doesn't work on lots of children hence the increase of awful kids, awful young adults and a group of parents parading themselves as perfect and judging others when their kids are usually the problems of society with no discipline!!