Struggling with Teenagers and Mess: How Can I Get My Kids to Clean Up After Themselves?

If you can’t turn off the Wi-Fi because they use their data, wait until they leave for school and go round their rooms and take their phone chargers and any kind of cable they can use to charge their phone. Then take the duvet cover and pillowcases off and leave them on the floor along with the sheet too, then pull the mattress off the bed and leave that on the floor aswell
 
Did everyone forgot all adults from childhood ......
What is discipline child mean and how well that worked 💪 when our parents used it .
Parenting these days gone to pleasing children 🙄who is the Authority in the house ????
You kids pays full bills?? I am thinking of opening bootcamp for this spoiled generation 🤔 who wants to dictate to their parents how they going to live
 
Hi. I haven't read all the comments so I apologize if this is redundant or has already been said...sit down with the family without phones or TV... explain to them the house rules e.g. clean up after yourself ,chores etc...then explain that if these rules are broken their privileges will be taken away (TV, internet, phones)... for kids aged 12 & under you can use the thinking corner or reflection room ...a boring corner or room without any fun things in there....they stay there for 9 or 12 minutes (depending on their age). After the time is done - they give you an apology... after the apology then the day continues as normal...the chores you can put on strips of paper & put it in a bowl & they can choose the chore (vacuum, dust, dishes etc)... you can also implement this during school holidays and if their chores aren't done then no screen time (no TV, phone etc) until the chores are done...be consistent & don't give in...
 
This is hard to explain but in our house we all pitch in together. Everyone respects everyone. Therefore when things need doing and anyone needs help everyone pitches in. I can't explain it. No-one wants anyone to be sad or over worked or undervalued. We work as a team giving and taking where necessary. For example My 14 year old will help tidy and clean my 6 year old bedroom because he can see it needs doing and he bonds with his sister while they are doing it. My 10 year old helps with cooking/washing up as she needs help keeping her room tidy as she gets over whelmed. The other afternoon we knew the garden and windows needed attention and within about an hour with all 5 of us pitching in the job was done. We all look after all our animals (which is a lot) which they have done since they were little. Knowone is "forced" no "rewards" no "punishment" just kindness and love.
This sounds cheesy now it's written down but anyone that knows us knows this is how we work and how our family live. Kindness is the way forward. Kids learn from what they see. If we are kind and compassionate, then they will be too. Learned behaviour/ Love
 
@one_in_christ that's like us. We don't have "screen times" or "snack times" when they were younger. They make decisions themselves. And I don't have one kid that obsessed with phones or screens or food. They are well rounded individuals I think. That hopefully won't suffer with addiction of any kind when they are older as they have had no limits and learnt how to regulate their own bodies, feelings and emotions x
 
Us too, our youngest has been through a phase where he went a little screen mad trying to fit in I think with some new peers but now he is back to himself, riding his bike, doing his yoga and watersports thank goodness. To be honest none of us really watch TV or anything either they prefer a book or a boardgame xx
 
@i_love_esther I totally agree. I was raised in a punitive family and it just encouraged me to rebel and fight back even more. I knew I didn’t want to take this approach myself so I haven’t. When you’re all on the same team life runs much more smoothly.
 
@leestephen love my kids but they seem so selfish. I feel like cinderella. But I know they care as they often give me hugs and kisses. They just don't seem want to muck in. This family got it to a tee. I'd love it
 
@detrimony I have 2 adult children and 2 smalls. The adults had to help when they were younger. I was single, working part time, uni part time and juggling them, house and atrempting to have a social life. They weren't always willing but we were a team. And they helped a lot! Saying that they are both still at home and 1 of them doesn't do anything to help unless he's asked. An even then it doesn't always happen. They're a bit entitled, but hard workers too.
The little 2 have taken more convincing but I'm less strict. The spending money carrot has worked for 1 but not the other. But tbf I word it as were a team, rather than do it for money. We have to have a sit down pep talk where I rant, every so often!
 
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