Struggling with Teenagers and Mess: How Can I Get My Kids to Clean Up After Themselves?
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wildflower5
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Be consistent.
Don’t threaten too big.
Remember that when they get older they’ll be your best friends!
Don’t threaten too big.
Remember that when they get older they’ll be your best friends!
One time my son went too far with me, so one night once he fell asleep. I took his, charger, internet cable, TV remotes and ps4 remotes and went to work the next day, I forgot his phone and got the funniest text but he knew i meant business he also knew if he did it again i would too. If you can do the same but remember the phones this will shake things up. Kids these days are spoilt and think the world owes them. There is no respect even though they have been taught. My teenage daughter took things too far, I had warned her if she pushed me to the brink I would cut her hair (most precious thing to her 
) while she was sleeping. She thought I was kidding, she went way too far and so when she fell asleep, I went and cut one side of her hair. Some may say I went too far but her hair could grow back and she learnt that when I make a promise I will deliver. At 21 she still has her moments but no where near as bad. I would also stop washing their clothes, making their meals and doing dishes for a bit and see how they go and as much as it pains you. Let it build up. If they want to go somewhere plain answer No. If they want money No. Kids need discipline but do it so it doesn't take all your energy, smacking doesn't work, yelling doesn't work, talking clearly hasn't worked so silence is key, ignore them like they do you. It works but you have to be patient. Wishing you all the very best and I do hope something changes for the better. Sending virtual hugs from one mum who has been through it all and still is to another x 
) while she was sleeping. She thought I was kidding, she went way too far and so when she fell asleep, I went and cut one side of her hair. Some may say I went too far but her hair could grow back and she learnt that when I make a promise I will deliver. At 21 she still has her moments but no where near as bad. I would also stop washing their clothes, making their meals and doing dishes for a bit and see how they go and as much as it pains you. Let it build up. If they want to go somewhere plain answer No. If they want money No. Kids need discipline but do it so it doesn't take all your energy, smacking doesn't work, yelling doesn't work, talking clearly hasn't worked so silence is key, ignore them like they do you. It works but you have to be patient. Wishing you all the very best and I do hope something changes for the better. Sending virtual hugs from one mum who has been through it all and still is to another x gigilite1000
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@gigilite1000 she was a child.
manonfire6640
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@manonfire6640 no they do not 
probably from the “my parents hit me and I turned out fine” era
probably from the “my parents hit me and I turned out fine” eragigilite1000
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manonfire6640
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@gigilite1000 The therapist can look after the “brat.” That’s a lovely way to talk about someone’s kid. Also if you’d be expecting a therapist or anyone else to look after your children if they become difficult then please don’t have any
Also if you’d be expecting a therapist or anyone else to look after your children if they become difficult then please don’t have anyjosephtheprotector
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@josephtheprotector no it's not it's teaching a lesson to a 17yr old that just wouldn't stop.