@josephtheprotector teenagers absolutely need to have the fear of parents! It's a balancing act my boys now in their 30's have always been able to talk to me about anything but also knew never to cross the line, it's called respect. We are not here to be their friends, can't bear it when people post pics of their kids saying my bezzie mate, we are here to parent, to teach, to guide, to be a moral compass, to help them grow into respectable adults, being strict doesn't equate to not showing love or compassion.
Struggling with Teenagers and Mess: How Can I Get My Kids to Clean Up After Themselves?
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danimanilove
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@josephtheprotector actually kids should fear their parents. Not because they are about to get a full on punch in the face but out of pure respect...which these brats don't have. They probably respect others in authority and fear what's said and done to them but most importantly they should have that fear and respect for their parents end of
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@danimanilove No.
danimanilove
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@josephtheprotector good luck when your darlings hit that teenage stage!
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@danimanilove No.
danimanilove
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@josephtheprotector or not lol
specialk121
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Take phones/ electrical devices off them! Maybe they will realise then
anna_jackson
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I remove all devices until they do what’s expected of them. Their lives revolve around phones so remove the phone and just watch the chores magically happen 
don’t dare let them laugh at you. Remove devices and privelages for however long it takes and stick to your guns DO NOT GIVE IN of they will not take you seriously. Best of luck, it’s horrible battling them 
don’t dare let them laugh at you. Remove devices and privelages for however long it takes and stick to your guns DO NOT GIVE IN of they will not take you seriously. Best of luck, it’s horrible battling them @anna_jackson exactly. Follow through IS the most important. Just turning off wifi when you know they have data? Nope. The devices need to go, until they can live by the house rules.
@anna_jackson ive attempted to take devices off them and ive ended up being hurt. My second born kicked me the last time i took the phone off her. Bearing in mind im only 4ft 11 and they all tower above me so they just hold their phones above their heads or lock themselves in their rooms. Like i said theres zero respect z
@weike my partner is amazing and we are both on the same page re the kids. He works monday to saturday so its mainly me that looks after them. He does his fair share around the house. My older two arent his however he treats them all the same. My second born has zero respect for him either & Will often challenge him when he asks her to do things x
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god_is_love_always
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@jjoseph how about removing charging cables? That way you're not wrestling to get the devices but taking away their option to charge them. I have learnt with my middle defiant child to give him the silent treatment. That bothered him more than having a go.
I do feel your pain though, as the 12 year old can be very rude and he's a tramp. He just drops rubbish on the floor of his room, takes his clothes off and leave them on the floor, won't close the draws when he's taken clothes out. It's frustrating, I too have mental health issues so know where you're coming from x
I do feel your pain though, as the 12 year old can be very rude and he's a tramp. He just drops rubbish on the floor of his room, takes his clothes off and leave them on the floor, won't close the draws when he's taken clothes out. It's frustrating, I too have mental health issues so know where you're coming from x
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@jjoseph wow I’m sorry you are going through this. I’d remove the charging cables. Then I’d probably take their bedroom doors off the hinges, they can have privacy back when they earn respect. You just need to suss out how to cleverly make their lives miserable. Turn the tables. Make sure they get absolutely zero privileges until they change their tune. You may be short but show them you are mighty!!!!
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beaglemomsc
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Turn their WiFi off!
@beaglemomsc she's tried that, they use their data!