Struggling with Teenagers and Mess: How Can I Get My Kids to Clean Up After Themselves?

[manonfire6640]

@braveornot How can you say someone isn’t raised right for not thinking that kids need to be fearful of their parents? I totally agree with the stance that kids don’t need to feel intimidated by their parents in order to have respect.

 

[braveornot]

@manonfire6640 I didn't say someone isn't raised right if not fearful of their parents. I haven't said that at all.

 

[braveornot]

@manonfire6640 I'm saying I'm sorry if she wasn't raised right. If she had a bad experiemce. She may not have I am saying sorry if she has. Want saying she had been. Hope that makes sense

 

[manonfire6640]

@braveornot That’s literally not what I said. I asked why you are assuming she wasn’t raised right because of her stance on this “intimidation parenting.” That’s a disgusting thing to come on and assume of someone just because you don’t agree.

 

[braveornot]

@manonfire6640 missed my point entirely . I'm.not assuming anything. I said that just in case she had a bad experience . She may not have. You've misconstrued what I've said and read more into it than what I was saying, in case she was intimidated and it effected her. She may not have. But never mind you do you and I'll do me.

 

[josephtheprotector]

'You look not long out of your teens yourself. I am sorry if you wasn't raised right or the way you think you should be raised' It's clearly a dig. Your children should never be intimidated by you and if they are then you're doing a shite job at parenting. The definition of intimidation is 'frighten or overawe (someone), especially in order to make them do what one wants.'.

 

[reepicheep77]

@josephtheprotector do you have teenagers?

 

[josephtheprotector]

@reepicheep77 yeah loads

 

[godslittleprincess4444]

@reepicheep77 no she don’t! One day she will kick herself and think damn should have kept my mouth shut I knew nothing

 

[josephtheprotector]

@godslittleprincess4444 You literally dont have any teenagers girlie

 

[frangipani]

@josephtheprotector NEITHER DO YOU GIRLIE !

 

[josephtheprotector]

@frangipani neither do you girlie

 

[godslittleprincess4444]

@josephtheprotector and you stalked my page . Just to be wrong ! Your probably about the same age as my eldest by the looks lol everyone still coming for you and you still don’t see your wrong definitely a teen yourself girlie

 

[josephtheprotector]

@godslittleprincess4444 We're literally the same age girlie

 

[poseidon1]

It's the same in our house a lot of the time, although I do keep a tight ship! I have too..They aware there are consequences and I pay for their phones which can easily be blocked..They are expected to put their clothes away and tidy any rubbish etc, put things back where they found it. If they cook they clean it and sides..dishwasher is usually empty for them to load as we go. When we didn't have a dishwasher they helped clean up. I use the bin bag trick clearly they don't need it if they can't look after it. They do push back a lot but I just remind them of the consequences and it soon gets done..but you must follow through on the consequences otherwise it means nothing! I don't argue I walk away, they know what's expected and they get 3 strikes of me asking..although truth be told I've had to shout sometimes to get them to listen over their entitled little rants. Eldest now 22, looks after herself and is pretty good if I need help, but I have to ask...sometimes asking is all you need if not go full guns consequences lol

 

[josephtheprotector]

Chloe Buck Thats literally abuse

 

[josephtheprotector]

Chloe Buck shouting at your kids to the point theyre 'scared shitless' of you is abuse yeah.

 

[radioron]

Instilling fear in another is not discipline.
A human amagdala is not fully developed until mid 20’s.
They are still growing and learning.
Establishing boundaries of acceptable behaviour is vital.
And following through with consequences.

 

[mchuely]

@josephtheprotector do you carry your massive judgement wand with you when you go out and about or is it just used for social media?

 

[josephtheprotector]

@mchuely Wouldnt leave the house without it