Struggling as an Introvert: Anyone Else Feeling Lonely and Finding It Hard to Make Friends?

[laurencesantos]

Aww this post is so sad. I don’t know what I’d do without my friends. I love being with my family but my group of friends are so important for nights out, weekends away ext. can you join a local club, keep fit, walking, book, cooking ext literally anything to meet people? Or all post your area and I bet there’s loads of you near each other who would love to meet up for a coffee xx

 

[unique23]

When did I write this post.?! I can’t remember… have I got amnesia?

 

[marc16]

@unique23 that made me laugh

 

[gbakasa]

Hi. I'm pretty quiet. Married, Mum of 4. Very left-wing, pro-trans-rights, worried sick about the environment and our kids future hopes, uni-level education, back in ft work for just over a year after 11 years fulltime at-home. Did and still do Attachment-type parenting. Terrible memory, late 40s.
So if I sound worth messaging - give it a try!

 

[malachithelion]

@gbakasa I don't know about the op, but you're my tribe!

 

[gbakasa]

@malachithelion I do live in Ireland mind, so a meet-up might be tricky.

 

[malachithelion]

I've a campervan, you never know!

 

[lucki]

Where in the world are you? I'm sure there will be others on this group who are nearby who'd be up for meeting up x

 

[letifrancais]

If you can, get a job. Met some of the best people in my life through work and every now and then we go out on a night out. It will boost your confidence also. It’s my little break from everyday life! I know not everyone is in the position to do this being mums etc but honestly it’s done me wonders and really boosted my mental health also

 

[marc16]

@letifrancais I'd love to but In this country just not doable. I am going force myself to college hopefully in January just don't know if the course will be for me. Always second guess things

 

[letifrancais]

@marc16 I used to be like that and second guessed everything but you have to really push yourself in life to make change. That change could be the best decision you ever make and your never know unless you try. Good luck

 

[marc16]

@letifrancais thank you I will push myself this time. Even if I don't do it as a job iv learnt to do stuff on myself at least

 

[johnanon]

@marc16 then you need to learn to trust your feelings and to not overthink

 

[marc16]

@johnanon that's impossible for me unfortunately every therapy tried this unfortunately just me. I just either push through it or I dont

 

[mleakton]

Peanut app is fantastic to reach out to other like minded mums.
I have a 3.5 year old and a partner.
But I am one very very active and social person and I have been all my life.
I work part time.
But when my little boy is a at nursery and I'm off work. I tend to: go to the gym. I have joined 2.
I have joined W. I.
Have lunch out.
Pamper myself at spa's.
I do go to a mummy and toddler group. The same one Every Wed morning. Made 5 best friends. We do everything together. And we now run the group.
I have only just made friends with other nursery mums. So we do a lot of playdates on a weekend.
I'm 35 and it keeps me on my toes.
I'm not one to stay still for more than 5 mins lol.
My partner is also my best friend.
But I am also getting assessments for adhd.
X

 

[marc16]

@mleakton tried peanut app numerous times with no luck.

 

[mleakton]

@marc16 there's groups like this.. I've joined this one.. But don't have the time to meet up with them.

 

[mleakton]

When I say I have joined 2 gyms.... One is a gym gym where I do weights etc... And the other is a dance / zumba class.. Which a lady does in the local village hall 4 nights a week.. I go 1 or 3 times per week. Been going for 21 months. And we now go out into town clubbing like every 4 months just us girlys. And the dance teacher has put on Xmas party's for last 2 December's. So I've made friends that way. We all go 45 mins be4 the class starts to chat now and have a social chat .. And dance 6.30pm till 7.30pm.
X

 

[ibeenthere2]

I used to be very introverted.
I have come out of mu shell lots the past 5 isb years, buttttt I still struggle to make friends but I go through waves of feeling sad I don't have a group of close friends, to ahh I couldn't be arsed with meeting people

 

[simply_amazing]

I'm an introvert too. Do alot of masking and prefer 1-2-1 too. Have friends majority met through work or uni but..everyone is busy and you don't want to impose. As an introvert I do find it hard going to clubs etc. As when people already know each other it's tiring trying to chat etc. Kids are great for starting conversations, maybe see if there's an activity they could go to and chat to other parents at it ?