Struggling as an Introvert: Anyone Else Feeling Lonely and Finding It Hard to Make Friends?
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they can be like that sometimes. I've been to some like that only went once ha u can tell qhen ur not welcome haconfusedone070289
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Me too! I literally used to stand as far away as possible from everyone on the school run. I was about 10 years younger than them, and I never felt like I fit in.
My only ‘adult’ conversation is my 12 year old! I’m happy that way though.
My only ‘adult’ conversation is my 12 year old! I’m happy that way though.
I was like this and joined a dance fitness class. That was almost 7 years ago. For the 1st couple of years I was on and off going as my confidence got in the way. Then covid hit but as soon as it was back on I went back. I now have my absolute best friend and I dance with her 3 times a week on stage as it’s her business. She’s helped me massively with my confidence.
Are there any local groups you can join? It is scary when you 1st go, especially if you don’t know anyone but the more you go the more people start to talk to you xx
Are there any local groups you can join? It is scary when you 1st go, especially if you don’t know anyone but the more you go the more people start to talk to you xx
onegodonepathgurl2911
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I’m an extrovert and I still struggle 
also have children and haven’t made any connections at school. X
also have children and haven’t made any connections at school. XI’m similar, but I think I’m possibly less introverted than you’re saying. I’m friendly and chatty, happy to talk to pretty much anyone. I do struggle with abrupt or super opinionated people though and find it hard to start conversations without it feeling awkward/forced. I just always struggled with converting friendly to actual friends. I never understand how people can go to a pub or wherever and make friends. It was even harder before kids, and worse still when I was single. Thankfully I made some lovely friends through baby group but even they the once in a while kind of friends rather than frequent. I have a nice conversation and that’s the end. I’m a mum of two young kids, work from home and hardly go out. Pushed myself to join a choir this year and that been rewarding, but not as much opportunity to make friends as I’d hoped. I just don’t seem to be the friend of choice So no advice really, it’s hard. But you’re not alone xx
@emilysanz I don't seem to be the friend choice either. Must see my awarkdness and walk away 
ill happily chat to anyone but they have to start the conversation first I just can't do it x
ill happily chat to anyone but they have to start the conversation first I just can't do it x@marc16 maybe we need to try to push past the awkward ick feeling to make the effort.
It doesn’t help that I’m awful with faces and names so I can’t even start up a conversation “Oh hi you’re Brad’s mum” or whatever.
For you, and like others ha e suggested, I think it might be good for you to join some sort of community ground or volunteering. It would help bring fulfillment. If it doesn’t suit try another. And you never know who you’ll meet! 15 years ago I joined a group where the average ago was 70+ and ended up meeting my now husband (he was only 7 years older than me, not 70+)
Or maybe we need some sort of badge that’s says I’m not stuck up, I’m just shy
It doesn’t help that I’m awful with faces and names so I can’t even start up a conversation “Oh hi you’re Brad’s mum” or whatever.
For you, and like others ha e suggested, I think it might be good for you to join some sort of community ground or volunteering. It would help bring fulfillment. If it doesn’t suit try another. And you never know who you’ll meet! 15 years ago I joined a group where the average ago was 70+ and ended up meeting my now husband (he was only 7 years older than me, not 70+
) Or maybe we need some sort of badge that’s says I’m not stuck up, I’m just shy
cherylpiops19
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@emilysanz start with ‘sorry I am dreadful with names how is your little one getting on’ or something along those lines. People are usually quite kind/forgiving.
@emilysanz yes the badge would totally help me
@cherylpiops19 I'd never dream of doing that if they don't talk to me first I'll unfortunately be a loner forever
Even my husband had to talk to me first when I first met him, would hardly speak a word to him
if they don't talk to me first I'll unfortunately be a loner forever Even my husband had to talk to me first when I first met him, would hardly speak a word to him
Most of the people I know I've met through my husband becasue I am an introvert and he is not. To be honest, I don't go out of my way to make friends. So many people don't seem to understand what it is to be introverted so I just get criticised for the way I am and told I need to act differently and people like that are not worth my time!