Struggling as an Introvert: Anyone Else Feeling Lonely and Finding It Hard to Make Friends?

@wedjat my mother in law is lovely but she's same I need to go out more , make friends not healthy for kids. My kids are already introverts especially my oldest and he just doesn't care. He's happy with it. If he doesn't want to socialise and rather play on his own at school he's happy with that if he wants to play football he will. But I'm been criticised cos I don't socialise and show my kids
 
Saaaaaaame! But then I remember I wouldn't have time for a social life because I work 2 jobs and have the kids with me the rest of the time as me and the husband are passing ships 😆
 
I would maybe try a walking group? Because people end up walking in small groups so it's not as overwhelming as joining something bigger like a class. And nothing is expected of you, as you don't have a role to fulfil like in volunteering - so it's no pressure. Xx never apologize for who you are, see your uniqueness as a strength, not a hindrance, and the barriers will fade xxx
 
@marc16 I wouldn't worry what others think..you do you hunny, it starts with seeing yourself in a healthy way first..why wouldn't they want to hang with you? It's their loss xxx
 
@coptic_man when I meet new people I'm quiet and shy. But then when I'm comfortable around you I'm so loud and can be hyper. I speak my mind and don't rhino before I speak 🙈
 
I'm in my 30s, I'm introverted and also autistic. The older I get the harder it gets to make friends (even after having young children). I struggle to make friends and struggle even more to keep them... I often end up saying something to offend / do something wrong and I'm just plain terrible at keeping the right amount of contact going with people. Some days are tough, especially when you see people doing stuff with their friends / groups and it seems so alien to me. But I've mostly come to peace with it now and I keep myself busy by doing all the things I want to do on my own or with my children! As long as I don't feel I'm missing out on the things I really want to do, that makes it easier. So I have no real advice on how to make friends (sorry 🥲) but don't let that stop you having a good time by yourself anyway!
 
im the same but i have 2/3 friends that ive know since i was in primary school and we have got back in touch. we go out for lunch once a week. i love being indoors on my own but it is good to be out and about at times. maybe a book club if ur into reading? or a women’s library and they meet up and do different things each week. check at ur local library.
 
Are you in introvert naturally or is it anxiety as to why you say your an introvert. The only reason why I say that is because you may not have found your niche of friends but that’s not a reflection on you more other people. Where do you live? Xx
 
I'm the same but to be honest as much as I want friends I also don't cause I can't be doing with all the stress it brings too, my life is my family & I can't just drop everything to go for a cuppa.
 
I approached a smily lady at kids child care a nd said fancy a coffee sometime. 10 years on I can message her for a coffee . What’s the worse that can happen? They say no you move on
 
Realistically if you got offered to go for coffee would you go?Im similar to you I wish I had close friends too but then if I got offered on a night out Im so shy I wouldn't go,if your children get offered to a friends party that's a good way to make some school mum friends,or if you've got a local group page for your area everything you've wrote in your post write on there chances are there are loads of people feeling the same way and you will get more local people you could connect with
 
@dyanita oh mags!!! We can be socially awkward friends!! Me and some of the other mums from the school are going to start going to the library before afternoon pick up for a coffee and chill, I'm helping one of them with a cv xx
 
I have sisters who fill that void because although I have freinds I'm the one who's mainly declining offers to go out because I cba to get dressed up or have chit chat or listen to ppl complain about crappy things lol
 
I'm the same & from reading some of these comments, we are definitely not alone! Anxiety sucks bigtime but it's reassuring to know it's extremely common & we have probably been standing next to someone at the school gate who's feeling exactly the same way!! Maybe on a good day (yes we do have them occasionally!) try & help out at the school or an after school club. Have a look out for hobby meets (book club, crafty, walking, etc) sometimes you don't even need to speak to anyone, sometimes it's just being around other people with a common interest that can make you feel better. You don't need to find a best friend & all friends start out as strangers, it just takes one little step - you can do it 💕🤗
 
Making friends with school mums is difficult because potentially the only thing you have in common is that you gave birth around the same time. Are there any hobbies that you enjoy or have always wanted to try? Joining a club means you get to meet people who share at least one taste with you and you get to learn/develop a new skill as well 💜
 
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