@maykatcooper and
@jm01 I was that child who’s dad took their own life, I was 7. From my perspective then -
1. I needed those boundaries, I might of resented those boundaries but I reeeeeally needed them.
2. Self destruction and self preservation became coping mechanisms. I was always trying to push my mum away, in my eyes my dad left me, and so my mum was going to eventually.
3. I didn’t want to talk about it, but I did and I needed to. If it’s too painful for you to have those conversations (it certainly was for my mum), perhaps you can write letters to each other, I had so many questions.
4. Support is invaluable - I really wish there were the charities then that there are now.
5. Quality time with my mum, with no distractions was invaluable, I needed double the love more than ever.
I hope this helps, and stay strong. It’s a shitty place to be in, but your all in together and I promise you, you’ll have this incredible bond and love for each other. You are their rock now and they’ll see every single fight you fight for them and they’ll never forget it xx