My Son Is Being Bullied and School Isn't Helping – Seeking Advice on Next Steps

[alex17791]

My biggest advice is to document everything, and do it all via email, write dates times, what your son is saying take photos of the bruises, email school and ask for a meeting with the head and also ask for the senco to be present, I'd also take someone with you to so you are not alone, phone or email the local education authority and document what has been going on with them. In the meantime reassure your son that you are there for him, and that mum is going to do everything she can to get it sorted. I have a son with additional needs and whilst he hasn't been bullied by children he has by certain teachers and I have fought years with schools and now he is 15 and he knows that if anything goes wrong that isn't his fault (don't get me wrong he knows right from wrong and is more than capable of making wrong choices) but if he isn't in the wrong I advocate for him and it gets sorted, don't be afraid of the school/teachers. Stay strong xx

 

[bex]

Look on the school website at the anti-bullying policy and quote parts to the head teacher, the policy is there for them to follow

 

[luellen53]

Ask for a copy of their bullying policy and then see whether they’ve actually followed it

 

[soulserena]

Look at the schools bullying policy so that you are well informed on how they should be handling it verses how they aren’t handling it. Request a meeting with the headteacher, his teacher and the head of Sen. Document all incidents with dates, times and photos.

 

[empower]

My 7 year old is in the same thing. He got strangled and face held down in mud and they lied to me about it. Then he got pushed over in the playground the other day for no reason. I took him out the last day because he was sobbing and I mean to the point I cried because he was so so heartbroken. I emailed them a huge email and I was like I don't give a fk anymore if you won't protect him and look after him he won't be attending. He cries daily he doesn't want to go in etc. I'm moving him school now. No ones strangling my son and getting away with it. Sending so much love mama its heartbreaking.

 

[flawed]

@empower the same happened to my son at the same age, 2 boys smash my son face of the ground, the blood was still on the floor when I arrived at school, promised me it wouldn't happen again, 2 weeks later same kid decided to hit a tennis racket of my sons hand, it was so swollen and the teacher stood there and basically said I was making drama out of nothing, well I beg to differ when there was evidence of it. I had it out with the parents as well and it carried on with the pushing and shoving between this kid and my son, like you son came out sobbing one day and that was my final straw, I moved him schools and he never looked back, got his confidence back within days of starting new school and getting new friends..he is 15 in 2 days and he has never forgotten this but is much happier now.

 

[empower]

@flawed omg that's awful I'm so so sorry I don't get kids that do this. My son loves everyone and anyone never been told off on school. He's got such a pure heart he takes it when I wish he would retaliate. I can't wait for him to move now he's refusing to go back to his school but until we get approved for the new school he has no choice so glad your son is OK now

 

[flawed]

@empower my son stands up for him self now, if anyone starts or says anything he will defend himself, luckily when we moved schools it was just at the end of the summer so he had the 6 weeks holidays and then started new school. I hope it all works out for your son and I pray he gets his new start soon. X

 

[curiousguy]

Take him out and document it.He can not get bruised.I would call the council and say ,you are not bringing him to school till they investigate.You can't let them do that to him.Poor thing .I would definitely change school.Dont let him get hurt.Is not right.They can't find you,if you call them and tell them reason.Good luck

 

[curiousguy]

Fine you not find u.xx

 

[nanathalieee]

Get him Into boxing

 

[amandae]

Take him out of school right away. Write to the Head and Govenors and state the you child will not to return to school until you can be assured he will be safe and that the bullies have been dealt with (i would look for other schools in the meantime). I did this with my son, I should have done it sooner. That school refused there was an issue and had the nerve to tell my son off when he finally hit back. You have to protect your child if no-one else will x x

 

[guadalupana]

I hate bullies I was bullied at school it's horrible you never forget it give him hugs let him tell you everything don't send him back to that school

 

[thetruththesun]

There is a great facebook page called not fine in school... there is a plethora of help, advice, understanding and support.

 

[nhoncon]

Right first of all give your boy a big hug off me, tell him he's amazing, as for the school ask them for a copy of there bullying policy and tell them if they don't deal with it you'll go to the papers believe me they'll soon pull there finger out. Good luck keep us updated merry Christmas to you and your son xx

 

[blast0102]

It's really rough hon. I feel for you. My girl was bullied in years 7 and beginning of yr 8 so I moved her. She's so much happier now although it didn't start off that way. X

 

[jsheaven]

My boys wear bullied at one time i would demard it get sorted if you no the kids i get hold of them after school.pity he got no older friends that can get them school do fuck all tell them you going to report them to osterd they shit them selfs i also youse to get parents and tell them straight but best thing is join rugby not football makes them get really confurt and twycondo my sons never got bullied again and meet new people xxx

 

[charchard]

Name and shame the school and the bullies

 

[tanguy]

@charchard I’ve done this before and it didn’t go well. Despite so much evidence and several parents backing me up as it was a male pupil bullying girls mentally, physically and making disgusting inappropriate comments daily, the parents refused to accept their child was a bully and schools don’t punish anymore.
All I got was abuse from the parents after.
Thankfully we moved out of the area so a perfect excuse to move schools.

 

[cineplus]

It can be complex. Have been on both sides (school and parent of a bullied child). Sometimes your child might have done the wrong thing too, and that makes it even more complex.
Schools want to get it right and are obliged to tackle bullying. It isn’t easy to do so, especially as kids often don’t tell.
I’d strongly recommend you go and see the headteacher, lay out your concerns factually, and ask them to tackle the issue properly.
It helps to have specific names and incidents and to use words like “keeping my child safe in school”, “bullying”.
Give the school two chances to fix it. That should include a senior leader interviewing the children, parents involved. Often there will be one extra bully incident following reporting but then it gets fixed.
If it continues, you should then:
1. Make sure you have told the headteacher your concerns continue
2. Lodge a formal complaint with school / governors
3. After formal complaint process complete, if issues remain then you can complain to Ofsted. Only do this if you’ve exhausted all else.