Struggling with Teenagers and Mess: How Can I Get My Kids to Clean Up After Themselves?

When they leave things lying around and refuse to pick up put in a bin bag and threaten to throw out. I hide it in the garage for a few days and when they dont have it they soon change their minds thinking it has been thrown out
 
They are too many, I think you deserve to treat yourself with the services of a weekly cleaner, even twice a week x 3h. The money for the cleaner should be the money that you usually spend on the children.
 
I had a starting secondary school meeting for one of mine the other day, and the head teacher raised the point that the children don't own a phone, because they don't pay for it! It's a privilege! So you own the phone.....maybe withhold the phone until they can show you some respect xx
 
Mine have all had jobs since starting high school,
Empty/reload dishwasher
Feed dogs/make sofas
Feed outside Animals
These are morning jobs then they all have evening jobs too!
One day they are going to have to learn to live on there own! Take those phones and make them work for the money your paying on a contract? X
 
My 2 eldest were fifthly! So we took their bedroom doors off while they were at their dads, locked the doors in the garage, left a load of cleaning bits outside their rooms and went out for the day. They were livid but it was our last resort. We had a LOT of ranty voicemails but they did it and we replaced the doors as soon as they were done. And were better for a while. We all laugh about it now. 😄
 
My 10 year old has to keep his room tidy and put his washing away, he has to clean his own plate after dinner that's the rules. If he wants money for things he does extra chores. Yesterday his clean clothes were all over the bedroom floor where he hasn't put them away so he wasn't allowed to play with his friends till it was done. Soon got done x
 
Thankyou for all your wonderful responses. I shall take the advice on board. Going to get a little safe/phone safe & start locking them away until jobs are done. Im just tired of fighting and nagging my entire life. Time to get tough and stick to it x
 
If physically taking their phones isn't an option add something like family link which allows you to put time restraints on or lock it altogether from your phone. And if they want a lift or money but haven't pulled their weight or done as asked it's a no!
 
I feel your pain. I actually got to the point where if no one washed up I just threw everything away, plates, knives, forks cups, 🤣 ultimately it cost me, but they soon learnt..🤣
 
Have a look at family link, you can control how long they are on their phone, what apps they use, can lock it so they cant use it at all.
 
I’m one of 6, one of my older brothers had refused to clean his room or do anything that my mum had asked for ages. She had warned him if he didn’t buck his ideas up she would paint his room orange. He didn’t think she’d go through with it so ignored her….. and then went on holiday…. when he came back every single thing from his bed to the light bulb in that room was bright orange. Funnily enough after that he kept everywhere immaculate!!! 🤣
 
@ekow an ex of mine said he threatened to take everything out of his daughters room if she didn’t keep it tidy, he followed up with this and she came home to an empty room, everything gone!!
He obviously returned it all and a lesson was learnt, not something I’d have the heart to do myself, I’m soft
 
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