I'm an introvert who has a very extroverted job so by the end of the day I'm all talked out. I have 3 friends who call me and l talk to them. I can go days without talking and it's started to bother me now, at the ripe middle age of 35. Can you talk to some of the school mums maybe? Or try people watching in your local cafe? I know many mums who become friends that way too..it's hard, not impossible. You want someone who gets that you won't always be social so choose carefully. I'm married to a social butterfly so he gets his high from being the center of attention and I visibly crumble at the thought of a huge party/day out. I take a book everywhere so he just comes and finds me after his socializing and we go home. Find the friend who is like that - happy to coexist in your introversion.
Struggling as an Introvert: Anyone Else Feeling Lonely and Finding It Hard to Make Friends?
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xThis is exactly me, but no husband either 
it's so difficult to make friends but I also think I could try a bit harder too. I do approach people sometimes and I'm fine if it's just 1 person, but any more than that and I'm lost and feel awkward within seconds and i can't snap out of it, it's horrible. It seems a lot of people are in the same boat, I thought it was just me. Like a lot of people have said, join a club of some kind, I'm thinking of doing the same, but it is scary, I would have to go with someone I know, I could never go on my own 
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it's so difficult to make friends but I also think I could try a bit harder too. I do approach people sometimes and I'm fine if it's just 1 person, but any more than that and I'm lost and feel awkward within seconds and i can't snap out of it, it's horrible. It seems a lot of people are in the same boat, I thought it was just me. Like a lot of people have said, join a club of some kind, I'm thinking of doing the same, but it is scary, I would have to go with someone I know, I could never go on my own xx@dovahkiin the clubs I want to join are never the time I can do. Always tea time/night time never in school hours x
As a fellow introvert, I recommend staying away from School PTAs or parent Committees as a general rule, I had my mental health destroyed doing it.
I am a Beaver and Cub leader however (have been for 6 years) and I have some lovely friends in my Scouting family.
I would choose a stress free hobby, that can be done with others, so you have a common interest as a base for a friendship.
I only have a few good friends, but the ones I do have, we have a common interest basis. One of them is also a fellow introvert, so we introvert together, and sometimes we don't talk for ages and nobody is offended about it! Perfect relationship!
I find other people and the outside world in general hard work. Even scouting absorbs much of my energy for the week.
I am a Beaver and Cub leader however (have been for 6 years) and I have some lovely friends in my Scouting family.
I would choose a stress free hobby, that can be done with others, so you have a common interest as a base for a friendship.
I only have a few good friends, but the ones I do have, we have a common interest basis. One of them is also a fellow introvert, so we introvert together, and sometimes we don't talk for ages and nobody is offended about it! Perfect relationship!
I find other people and the outside world in general hard work. Even scouting absorbs much of my energy for the week.
Yes definitely feel the same ! I only have a few friends that I actually feel comfortable with , but meeting new people or other school mums I never feel like I fit in either . I just find it so hard as we get older to click and chat with people . Your not alone hun . Always online here if you need a chat xxxx 
christianjay445
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In exactly this situation! I enjoy my own company (fortunately) but it does make me sad I don't have that group of friends to reach out to. I moved to a new city a year ago and my big plans to create a support network didn't quite pan out and then it becomes harder to know where to reach out. I'm currently waiting on an ADHD assessment and teamed with anxiety, it all feels a bit overwhelming! Feel free to message me 
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x@christianjay445 I do enjoy my own company too and alone time. Just sometimes I'd love a girly chat not had one in years
how did you go about the assessment? I think I have some form of autism as my son going through getting tested and we ate exactly the same but nobody believes me
how did you go about the assessment? I think I have some form of autism as my son going through getting tested and we ate exactly the same but nobody believes mechristianjay445
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@marc16 it's taken me years to pluck up the courage to bring it up to a GP, I felt like I was just creating excuses for myself. But when I finally did speak to the doctor they gave me a form to fill in and then we had another appointment about my answers. They agreed there was enough to put forward for an assessment but the waiting time can be crazy long so in a bit of a limbo at the moment. Speak to your doctor about about it, you know you better than anybody and a decent doctor will take that seriously. If you get fobbed off, try another, you deserve answers. Wish there was more support for people going through the motions without a diagnosis, doesn't change how hard it is to manage 
@christianjay445 thank you, give it ago. Know feeling about not enough support. Especially for children too I'm just getting fobbed off at minute with my youngest son saying he's for anxiety even though health visitor agreed there is some autism/asd resemblance there
christianjay445
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@marc16 amazes me how much people say "anxiety" and that's meant to explain everything. A lot of the time the anxiety can be because there's something bigger that needs addressing, especially with things like autism and ADHD. Go with your gut, if you believe it then push for it because they rarely make it easy! Hope you and your little man get answers and more importantly, some support!
I did get quite good before covid then I had my 3rd baby and just walking upstairs I run out of breathebuckshot307
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@buckshot307 ill check it out thank you
wagnerpatrick
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@wagnerpatrick thank you