Struggling as an Introvert: Anyone Else Feeling Lonely and Finding It Hard to Make Friends?
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creativebun
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This is like me on the school run. I started looking for other people who were usually on their own and just stood next to them and tried chatting. My daughter started to make friends with children similar to her and their mums were kind of similar to me. I also tried to be brave and just suggest taking the kids to the park after school. I just assumed people on their own were likely to be like me and just waiting for someone to take a bit of a lead and say hi. Know what you mean tho...it is really hard x
nurse_lorena
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I only have a couple and I prefer it that way I rarely socialise I love Mh own company and just being with my children . Life’s peaceful . I’m not interested lol
Being a mum can be so lonely unfortunately. Our life is consumed with our children and family. I don’t have many friends only three. We met at the school gates when our eldest children went to primary school. These three ladies are like my sisters now. School gates can be a strange place. I am hairdresser by trade I love meeting new people but not very good at making friends. But as I get older I am finding I am more open to new people in my life. If you live near Holmfirth we could meet up for coffee and chat. My youngest son is 6 years old if you have young children we could do play date X
an binge watching netflixMy husband doesn’t speak to me! So lucky have some friends but only one really these days, I can totally understand what u mean tho and then u get these people saying join a group or exercise class but u don’t end up making friends to go for a coffee with, could u possibly try and interact a little with the school mums. Id like someone to go out with on a Saturday night and don’t have anyone the friend I have I don’t tend to go out with at night as she has kids and she goes out with other people if she goes out. There is a app on bumble or something like that to make female friends,good luck
reasonseeker
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Jumping on this bandwagon!! 
Any Mum’s from Shropshire wanting a coffee meet-up or possible play date anytime? x
Any Mum’s from Shropshire wanting a coffee meet-up or possible play date anytime? xI was quite outgoing when younger, but having a disabled daughter nearly 50 years ago shut down all my outlets. No work mates, I didn't drive then, so Special School bus picked up our daughter (so no meeting other parents). Added to which I am Protestant and hubby Roman Catholic. This meant when I took our other daughter to her school, I didn't go to their Church, or have anything to talk about at school gate. I knitted like mad to fill my days. As I got older, I joined a Carers Group. We met for two hours once a month to fight for our children's Rights. I became Secretary of the Group, then was invited onto Council Committees (as token Carer Representative). I became a Campaigner for Disability Rights and. all in isolation (as ALL Carers are too busy to go out for coffee). Even during Respite, hubby and I just.. SAT and did nothing (a luxury). I kept learning.. Languages, crafts, legal aspects. I have made hundreds of crocheted Amigurmumi and given them away. I am fulfilled, and have NEVER gone out with "the girls" for coffee. I have a few friends I see a few times a year. But, I LEARNED... Contentment. I am valued. I am loved. I have made differences and I have enjoyed my life, and whisper it... I like me. In past generations mums didn't go out for coffee. Too busy doing housework which took up all their time. It is only now that we have too much time on our hands we feel we MUST fill it with "Socialising". My mum (born 1922) met her sisters once or twice a year. It is Societal pressure that we MUST be Sociable and Socialise. That is only a 3 generation long luxury. Learn to LIKE yourself and your own company. 
Not sure what age your children are, but if they're at school, have you considered doing something voluntary during the school hours? Food banks are always needing help. Or a local riding for disabled group? I started volunteering in may at ours, everyone there is so lovely, you can learn new skills if you haven't worked with horses before x
audiosalvage
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I overhear the playground conversations and it makes me cringe - I've never made any 'playground' friends and quite frankly don't want to as they're not my kind of people, so don't worry about not fitting in with the mom club.
If kids are at school could you look at some part time work or even some voluntary work? I get all my 'social interaction' from my job, don't have any friends, speak to my family regularly but thats enough for me right now.
If kids are at school could you look at some part time work or even some voluntary work? I get all my 'social interaction' from my job, don't have any friends, speak to my family regularly but thats enough for me right now.
aaronchristopher
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Is there a local Fb group in your area? Maybe try to reach out on there, there will be so many people in the same situation!!! I’m lucky i found a group of school mums who aren’t saying or portraying they are perfect and we love a good old rant! But you have to be picky!
sweetblessings
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Have you tried the Peanut app? It’s for mums to meet other mums, you can search by your location, then even child’s ages if you wanted to? I’ve met some lovely women in there 
Im thr same..see all the people in my area meeting up for various things and I just work or stay home or food shop lol. I do have sfriend Insee now and again but very rarely and isnt someone I would ring up and chat about stuff with. It really gets to me too so I understand how you feel. I think if you no longer oive in the area you wenr to seco dary school in you lose touch. Most of the other mums at school all went to school.together.
aaronchristopher
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If you ever want a chat my dms are always open. I’m down south. I struggle to put myself out there at first but if someone starts talking to me then I’m okay with them. I just struggle with that first step!!!
richdawkins
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I lived quite isolated in the middle of nowhere, didn't even go on the school run because the children got a school bus, so I got a couple of nights working in the village pub and it was brilliant, felt like I was socialising and getting a little bit of spending money too