Struggling as an Introvert: Anyone Else Feeling Lonely and Finding It Hard to Make Friends?
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sajiblobon
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Totally get this and you'd be surprised how many woman feel exactly the same, even if they're not introverted. I joined an app called peanut which helped
blackandwhite101
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I'm just the same! My youngest has just started school so can be a bit lonely in the day. Trying to find school hours work isn't easy and I'm very shy. Not one to go up to strangers. You just get used to being a mummy hard to be you again sometimes x
carolina123
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dwarmstrong
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dovescry84
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I’m like this. But to be honest I’ve had a few friends over the years (like school mums and stuff) but inevitably I end up backing away because it gets too much. I feel like I have to please everyone and do everything and I can’t. And people get offended when you say you can’t meet up for whatever reason.
For me it’s easier to just remain as I am.
I used to feel the same as you but then fitting in friendships along with everything else just doesn’t work for me
xxx
For me it’s easier to just remain as I am.
I used to feel the same as you but then fitting in friendships along with everything else just doesn’t work for me
xxxget out of the house,join some groups that share your interests and hobbies,give the kids tasks and help you to lighten your load,possibly you could consider a part time job or take some part time courses,being active outside the home is important too especially when you are young,with time you will get there but dont remain sedate...
christkiss
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If u have children young enough, try baby groups and just chat with others there. Or maybe try to get back in touch with some old friends from school or uni or whatever, they may be in the same position as u, or at least have kids themselves
I feel your pain. I am the same. But I was lucky to meet a couple of mums. Couple of them are mums of my girl's best friends at school, so we met at school when picking them up. It was covid rules, so we always had to stay on a same spot whilst queuing, 2 meters apart. Start with a little talk about what's happening at school. Other friend I found on a local Facebook page for mums. Someone always asking for a company for a walk with children - as nerve racking it might be at first, you'll find someone in the end with a similar mind. Or if you have a hobby - try local Facebook page for that hobby. Or, if your child young enough to take them to a baby/toddler group, that is a very good option as well. It took me quite a few years to find people who I am comfortable with. Good luck! x
@ivy iv been in and out of baby/Toddler groups for 9 years. Never found anyone that I clicked with, always felt like I was just latching on if I tried joining in conversations. So I just wait till I'm spoken too now. I'll smile at people all day long as you never know who needs that little smile. But if they don't talk neither will i
@marc16 I know what you mean. Do your kids get invited to birthday parties? Sometimes if you have to spend a couple of hours in a "parents corner" you might have even a small talk with them. See who you like, and then, at school pick up say hello to them, mention something about what a fun that was that party. Next time say something about weather or discuss a school information letter which you all received, or ask about after school clubs. Just an idea. Because I always struggled with finding something to talk about, and this how I actually found those mums. Little talk at a time, ask for some advice (even if you don't need it), just something what could lead to a small conversation.
It is very hard, I feel your pain.
I have to force myself to talk to people and so wish I was more bubbly and outgoing and likeable like everyone else. I do have friends, a couple that I truly class as a friend and I know I can count on them. I had to force myself to baby groups with my first born and talk to others, and thankfully it paid off and I still have them in my life now. I've not made friends since though and it is so hard to do so, as you say everyone has there circle and don't want to make new friends / not made to feel welcome. What area are you in? Hope you get something out of this post and well done for putting yourself out there, you are not alone
I have to force myself to talk to people and so wish I was more bubbly and outgoing and likeable like everyone else. I do have friends, a couple that I truly class as a friend and I know I can count on them. I had to force myself to baby groups with my first born and talk to others, and thankfully it paid off and I still have them in my life now. I've not made friends since though and it is so hard to do so, as you say everyone has there circle and don't want to make new friends / not made to feel welcome. What area are you in? Hope you get something out of this post and well done for putting yourself out there, you are not alone