Struggling as an Introvert: Anyone Else Feeling Lonely and Finding It Hard to Make Friends?
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Being an adult , especially one that doesn't live in the town they grew up in, is a lonely place. Spend 10 hours a day going between work and home, Saturday you have a million things to do and Sunday you are so tired the thought of getting ready to go out and try to find somewhere full of strangers to socialise is unbearable....
skinnylizzy91
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I feel the same as you. It’s so hard to make friends as you get older. Especially when you have kids. If you try to talk to someone they interrupt as they are bored. No one talks to me at the school gates and my husband barely speaks, or never listens when I try to strike up a conversation. I try to fill my time with craft hobbies but it would be nice to have someone to go for coffee with. 
I'm a single mum (autistic), I struggle with friendships, I never feel I fit in anywhere. I have a school chum, that lives in Canada, we don't speak often but I know she has my back and if I need to talk she's there. I have another friend who I met in holiday and she lives an hour away, we try to meet up now and again. Before covid we went on holiday together with our kids and then a long weekend without the kids. But that's it, I have had friends but I always seemed to be the one planning things etc. Once I stopped, the friendship fell away. I don't do school runs and there is not much social events at the school to get to know the other parents. I've been on my own for 16 years, since I was pregnant. I am lonely and often wonder what's the point.
I made friends via volunteering with my local scout group 
there now great friends and then took myself of to local coffee meeting was hard but have some great friends now. Also met my best friend through my boy playing football she was a football mum it's so hard adulting, I only have a few real friends but you only need a few x
there now great friends and then took myself of to local coffee meeting was hard but have some great friends now. Also met my best friend through my boy playing football she was a football mum it's so hard adulting, I only have a few real friends but you only need a few xbuckshot307
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@linda0902 
it’s bloody hard work being an introvert! I knew so few school mums when B was in primary that I wasn’t even on the parents WhatsApp group!
it’s bloody hard work being an introvert! I knew so few school mums when B was in primary that I wasn’t even on the parents WhatsApp group!@buckshot307 it really is x
acuriousgirl
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Same lol
I have been like this for years, didn't used to be, but circumstances let to me being an anxious mess. My daughter was going to a secondary school where she didn't know anyone, so for her sake, I reached out on Facebook a few months ago, to see if any other kids in the area were in the same situation. I ended up meeting another mum. She introduced me to another mum and we go out together now! I was terrified at first, but I just had to tell myself f@ck it! I'm not quite back to how outgoing as I was before, but I'm getting there and I'm so much happier x
golden_sunrise
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Have you got a dog ?
May sound unrelated but I walk mine every morning in local wood and meet so many people who stop & have a chat … don’t know
Many of their names but it’s uplifting and good start to my day
If that dosent appeal are you near any charity shops ? A few hours a week volunteering is a good way of socialising
Good luck
May sound unrelated but I walk mine every morning in local wood and meet so many people who stop & have a chat … don’t know
Many of their names but it’s uplifting and good start to my day
If that dosent appeal are you near any charity shops ? A few hours a week volunteering is a good way of socialising
Good luck
@shellyeve @fsteapot think we need to embrace it somehow. I didn't realise how many people was like me, it's not as uncommon as I actually thought. Should be a support group on this. I felt so alone till this post. Sending hugs to you both
@shellyeve thank you 
and same to you. I always thought you were an outgoing person as you seem very sociable and out lots with your lovely friends! Xx
and same to you. I always thought you were an outgoing person as you seem very sociable and out lots with your lovely friends! Xx