Struggling as an Introvert: Anyone Else Feeling Lonely and Finding It Hard to Make Friends?

[chrisvz]

Look up and smile is the starting point if you don't already. You will miss the olive branches of friendships that may start in the form of a smile at you or a little hello if you aren't x

 

[marc16]

@chrisvz I always smile at people even if they give me the death stare

 

[chrisvz]

@marc16 I know look well. I think the school run is the worse place to make friends if I'm honest. My kids school is so clicky and some of the mums really aren't very kind or inclusive. Do you have a hobby or could you volunteer? Its tough to make friends when you are likely to be at home a lot x

 

[aboma]

Same here . As IV got older and had kids ect nobody seems to bother with me anymore. They have there own lives n I have mine...

 

[christophermg]

This is me! Where do u live?.x

 

[marc16]

@christophermg South Yorkshire x

 

[cynthiagough]

Yep harder because I might be adhd to.. so I find I forget easily about meet ups.. or can't attend sometimes due to circumstances..
I'd love to have a friend who I can spend time with even at each other homes x

 

[marc16]

@cynthiagough yes this me. I might be on autistic spectrum so I can be loud, speak without thinking. And people think I'm weird

 

[cynthiagough]

@marc16 same here with being loud or not thinking and sometimes I just go quiet cox I'm burnt out!
I'm always being told I'm weird by my ex but we are us and unique xx

 

[marc16]

@cynthiagough yes you sound so like me! But your right I'm learning to be happy with who I am taking alot but I think I scare people because when they meet me I seem shy and quiet. But once they get to know me I'm loud, can be hyper I'm not the usual 32 year old

 

[aaronchristopher]

@marc16 you will find your people. The people that don’t like you for you are not worth the effort

 

[moonchan]

@marc16 I was going to say you may be but didn’t want to come across as rude ,this is me and I’m autistic and adhd self diagnosis ,only realised when
My children were diagnosed

 

[e3univ]

I know how you feel. Older, disabled man. What fun

 

[jesuslovesme43]

I'm an introvert. I have people I talk to online, but don't really see anyone in real life. It doesn't really bother me that much. I could probably change that if I wanted to, if I just asked someone. In theory I want to, but the actually going out part I don't like

 

[joyhelpinghands]

Are your kids in school?if so try volunteering or a small job,gets you out and about and your confidence will grow meeting more people,if the kids are young(preschool)go to a group class,even swimming etc,it'll be hard to take the first steps but you'll grow from it.

 

[marc16]

@joyhelpinghands iv been to various baby/Toddler classes never fitted in. Take my youngest swimming lessons but still same.

 

[jhon8]

I can understand to some extent. I struggle to form friendships too but I do work and do get some adult conversation. School mums situation is too clicky in my opinion so don't really socialise or talk to many of them. School holidays on my days off is when I feel lonely. I'll take the kids out and go to soft play and I'm the one sat in the corner on my tod like Billy no mates . Even though I do have a few friends in my circle, I can still feel lonely

 

[marc16]

@jhon8 I feel exactly like this in school holidays. That's why I like summer holidays as I go to beach alot so I don't feel less lonely like I do at play centres x

 

[julie1]

I used to be like that when i was younger but my mum persuaded me to join.a social group. Been member 28 years now. I don't get to do as much with it now as when i was younger but have good friends from it who will come visit me if I cant get to them.

 

[egibson133]

Omg I could have written this it’s so hard when you’re older and a stay at home mum, I’ve tried mum apps but they are all so much younger or got babies .