Struggling as an Introvert: Anyone Else Feeling Lonely and Finding It Hard to Make Friends?

[koolguy]

@marc16 ha ha that’s a strange one !!! Here if u want a chat xx

 

[marc16]

@koolguy thank you really appreciate it

 

[middi1]

There is an app called Peanut where you can find local mums in your area who are looking to make friends. I met a bestie on this app been friends with her for the past 4 years. Anyway in case you want to check it out here is the link https://peanut.app.link/vM5cwCs8geb

 

[marc16]

@middi1 iv tried this and not worked for me. Message a couple of times and then nothing. Iv tried to pick up a few conversations on there and you get nothing back

 

[middi1]

@marc16 yes I got that too sometimes. I managed to find a couple of local mums so yes you won’t get connections and responses from everyone which is fine it’s life but you can find some. There are local Peanut mums groups where they socialise and meet-up. They have meet-up group forums setup on Peanut. Anyway I hope you manage to connect and make friends.

 

[godspromisesryes]

Maybe a little part time job or volunteer job would help if you could squeeze one in? Then it’s not a forced situation as you start off chatting and laughing about work related things. Most of the funniest people I’ve met have been through work.

 

[livebyfaith777]

Do you have a local village hall or library, they normally have a list of what's on in your local area or look online for activities in your area? maybe a keep fit class or similar during the day, or maybe another class in something you would enjoy, or maybe volunteer a few hours or days a week at something local, charity shop? Visiting an old people's home, animal rescue? Good luck

 

[rhade]

I'm the same , but tbh it's better only having a small circle ... less drama lol

 

[marc16]

@rhade I'd love a small circle not a fan of a big one couldn't go out in a big group my head couldn't ot

 

[rhade]

@marc16 same I suffer with social anxiety so I can't cope in big crowds but I go to my friends for a cuppa and she comes here , all the kids play and it's just nice to have some adult chat

 

[marc16]

@rhade that's all i want but finding someone like that hard

 

[rhade]

@marc16 mines a funny story actually me and my friend grew up in same street few doors away from one another when we were younger , wasn't till when I moved from our hometown I realised she only lived one street away when her other friend invited me to like her wax page , we been good pals ever since . I'm sure you'll find someone to have girly catch ups with maybe look up groups or something in your area

 

[faithmessenger]

I thought I was the only 1 without any close’s friends

 

[mamrhein]

Could you maybe offer to help in school? We have a “friends of “ group that does stuff to raise money for school trips at my daughters school. It’s made up of parents & teachers. We all help where we can it’s not a massive commitment. It would create an opening to talking to other parents and finding a bit of company & see if a friendship develops. Even if it’s not a close lifelong bond you can suggest a coffee & chat (about fundraising) occasionally. X

 

[behram]

I discovered I am ND and this is why i struggle so much. I dont fit in with the school mums and am facinated how they all seem to make friends.

 

[marc16]

@behram what is ND? I don't fit in with other school mums. They are either stuck up and 2 faced or chavvy and 2 faced. Can't deal with the drama

 

[behram]

@marc16 Neurodivergent , i am autistic x

 

[marc16]

@behram I believe I am on the autistic spectrum especially as everything my son is I am too but not much help for adults to get diagnosed x

 

[behram]

@marc16 i found out through my children. There isnt much help but have found some great groups online and self diagnosis is perfectly valid when answering joining questions x

 

[adlucem]

@behram ok I breath and say hi. Sometimes this is really hard especially if you then end up standing non the edge of a circle of people who seem to ignore you and continue their conversation but you have to put in effort as well. I also find I look for people on their own as well or I get talking to a good friend of one of the children then invite them round for coffee. It might seem hard but no pain no gain x