Wow mine fight all the time. I have set up a list of things they can do to help and gain small amounts of money on a Rooster card - mine are 13 (twins). I try and head it off - if one is winding the other up I try and divert to - cooking, sewing, take one out shopping, make a smoothie - something they want to do. Sometimes it is play a game - do I have time? nope there are a 100 and one things to do but sometimes I have to just stop! I work with kids who have had significant trauma in their lives and try and get them to choose specific things they find comforting, calming and they have those to help - lights, tents, blankets, scents all sorts. I know what you mean about how the day starts - I could always tell what kind of day I was going to have by the behaviour the twins had in the morning! Sending hugs. X