Struggling with Teenagers and Mess: How Can I Get My Kids to Clean Up After Themselves?

[abim]

Bin bags.....
I told them that anything i found laying around or on the floor i would assume was no longer needed and would be binned, they didnt believe me initially....
But when their "stuff" stopped magically appearing back in their rooms and "disappeared" they got the message.

 

[nellek]

Come down hard on them. Lock up their phones and rewrite the rules. They are certainly old enough to cook, do dishes and clean. If they want to pay rent they can do it elsewhere, but they need to pull their weight a bit.

 

[msberry32]

@nellek absolutely this!!!

 

[radonenv]

Download our pact on their and you phone. They cannot remove it and it allows you to disable all apps etc (they can still text or ring). Reinstate it when they help.

 

[distracted1]

@radonenv didn't know this helpful for when A gets to that stage x

 

[tlimstinisw]

I hear you and I am going to move out and leave them all to it

 

[piscesrising]

this is me !! we have the app that blocks their phones but they know a way around it, websites like discord blocked through the modem. but they use data. - turning off the WiFi affects the 5 year old more. passwords on netflix, laptop, firestick and I change Alexa's name. refused to do washing not I'm wash bin, I've lost the plot and used a kitchen knife to cut the plugs off Tv's xbox's and playstations, they aren't bothered being grounded as would rather stay in anyway. we've 5 kids, 14, 14, 11, 10 and 5. most evenings I'm that knackered I could just sit n cry. Feel your pain. xxxxx

 

[seekerofthetruth331]

Maybe show them this post, I'm sure they don't really want to hurt your feelings but probably do not think these things are important and you are just moaning (I'm told this regularly) Failing that wait till they move out and go and trash their houses!!

 

[ravenmccloud]

We have a chore chart and everyone is supposed to pull their weight and do their chores. Would be wonderful if they did but the dishwasher is the one we insist on. Other jobs are asked of them during the course of the week. My 4 boys are awesome humans 22, 18, 15 , 15 and just need reminding to to their chores. I feel very lucky

 

[jigawatt]

Do the older ones have part time jobs? If not, I'd make that a condition of being allowed the privilege of having a paid-for phone. Being a responsible and respectful person outside of home should help how they behave with you.

 

[wanjiku]

Some of the answers on this post really do show why the kids of today are out of control. If I wouldn't eat what I was cooked I didn't eat,I was smacked as a last resort,but I was also taught how to cook,sew and iron.
I grew up learning to respect other people,I am not racist, homophobic,I open doors for people,etc.
I am not perfect,but neither do I disrespect others as the kids of today do,it actually horrifies me to hear all this idea of what some people class as abuse as it shows that it is only going to get worse.A lady was assaulted with eggs and concrete while cycling,my own wife was verbally abused for no reason,I only hope that these people don't get on the wrong side of some of these feral kids, believe me,while there are plenty of good kids,things will only get worse,, violent attacks will escalate,a teacher was stabbed in school last week,and all this nanny state is because of a few people going too far with hitting their kids,but those people are still doing it and killing their kids