Navigating ADHD Diagnosis and Social Challenges for Teen Son

Does he know these people who have taken upset ? Could be or you approach them with some printed literature ans some links to understand him and the way he sees the world is different ti them.
I used to carry business size cards with “my son is non verbal autistic he isn’t being rude he cannot speak “
Plus a few lines ans links to websites .
The looks I’d get in play centres of soft play from other parents was awful. So I’d hand them a card and say come chat if you’d like but I need to support my son while here 😉
 
My son is 16 now still haven’t spoken any kind of sound that is a word or resembles one but I can bet if he could - he would be saying many things very straight and would be taken badly by others all we can do is try and educate people for understanding cxx
 
There’s too many comments here for me to read through but, if financially able, I’d recommend getting him a neurodiversity affirming counsellor x
 
@spongxpunger I'm a middle aged woman waiting on diagnosis for autism who's has 3 kids 18,15 & 8 with different additional needs. I use my no filter brutal honesty, skill for reading emotions and voicing things properly and my photographic memory to help others. I run a swap shop group from home & a group for parents/carers of adults and kids with additional needs. And while some can't handle brutal honesty others appreciate it xx
 
Asperger’s is an outdated term and not used anymore. It’s named after a horrific person. It’s autistic. Not high functioning or low functioning. Not ASD. Just autistic. Each autistic person will have different support needs and this can change day to day. It’s often diagnosed alongside ADHD and sometimes someone can be diagnosed ADHD and medicated and then the autistic side will be more prevalent. Reassurance is needed and understanding. Defending your child when things are said. Explaining why the words used might come across as hurtful. It’s really hard for anyone who is ND to navigate this world x
Edited: Asperger’s was mentioned on several comments hence why I started with this. It wasn’t meant as an attack 🫣
 
@one_in_a_thousand this is like a minefield don’t worry, my son has been diagnosed with Asperger’s but I’m very sure he has adhd too, he just masked his hyper/out of control silliness at the clinic… trying to move forward the best way is so damn hard x
 
@heartoflogic it is a minefield. I have joined autistic groups on FB (run by autistic adults) to get to grips with trying to understand the world from a ND perspective. That has helped me adapt my parenting but it’s a long road and full of doubt. The school have been amazing and helped us with the diagnosis and the clinic should take into account far more than just what they see on the day. Good luck x
 
@one_in_a_thousand Aspergers is still being used as a diagnosis in the UK, I received one last year. Although I am not a fan of the term there are some that still use it in the autistic community as it is what they were diagnosed with. A
 
@benutzername that’s interesting. I can only go on what I was told. 18 months ago a family member received a diagnosis of being autistic via NHS England. We were told a year before that the term Asperger’s would probably have been used but it was outdated due to it being named after a nazi who did unspeakable things to autistic people, advised not to use it. I know a lot of work is going into it not being used by the various autistic communities. I guess we learn and adapt as we go.
 
@one_in_a_thousand it is being phased out eventually. But at present, my area still use it as a diagnosis. Which makes things awkward as its frowned on now by autistic community. So discussing it is hard because some accept it and others dont
 
@benutzername that makes it very difficult for those diagnosed. You get stuck in no man’s land. I have seen it discussed and the upset it causes. Hopefully all areas will catch up and once it stops being used and it’ll stop the confusion.
 
Bless you we are doing this and have been for a number of years.
Have been told assessment won’t be for 3 more years! Health service is absolute joke.
Hold your head high and love your son. There is nothing else you can do. Ignore the haters, there are too many that think they are perfect parents, they are lucky their life has been easy. Karma may yet bite their arse.
 
Not the same but my partner had a brain stem stroke. He had ZERO filter. Most people know and just let it wash over, but if they don’t I just say “apologies he can’t help what he says somtimes’ most people can normally read my shocked face to know it’s not hurtful,
 
My son is 19 and exactly the same as Ur son he had absolutely zero filter and just says it .. people talk about me about him about my family and I've learned to not give a shit .. I rarely apologise for his actions anymore cos why should I .. he's not nasty or mean I see it more as being honest .. people will always judge unfortunately.. x
 
My 14 year old says her medication gives her 'thinking time'. I know this doesn't help prior to a diagnosis but if he chooses to take medication then it may help him take a second before he opens his mouth.
 
Let him read up about his condition.....it will help him to understand himself.....look at nutrition.......read up too. Unfortunately we live in an ableist society so people tend not to understand unless they have a family member who is ND themselves x
 
My son is 12 and overshares information, quite often about me, trying to be funny. I try to pre warn him before we go out about a situation we’re going to be in as this helps him prepare for meeting new people. He would never mean to upset me or anyone else so we’ve learned to cut people out that criticise.
 
My son has ASD and ADHD and he is like that just says what he is thinking and he is medicated which certainly doesn't help that side of it but does help in other ways x
 
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