Navigating ADHD Diagnosis and Social Challenges for Teen Son

Hi there my son is 17 and also has ADHD we have really been through the mill as they say as people just judge before they understand especially when he was in primary school. It can be hard to deal with fir him and you but this didn't have to define him my son has his ups and downs he didn't understand when people joke with him he always believes he's right and will argue his point ferociously but again if the people around him have been informed of his condition then hopefully they should understand. My son has an apprenticeship at pizza hut this was massive for him he's in the kitchen so thankfully didn't have to deal with customers but he loves it and they love him but they have all been told of the situation he even went out with them for meal the other month which is something I thought would never happen with him I was so proud he went for a night out with his mates. He loves to talk about how he feels and what he has been through if you ever want a chat with him so you can see it from an insider's point of view if you know what I mean. Feel free to pop us a message anytime xxx
 
@max1120 he's doing well he's not had the easiest of times at all but he's growing into an amazing young man and I'm so proud of him. He often speaks to people about his experiences and how he managed with them xx
 
I’m sorry you’re having a tough time , I can’t help you with any advice but I quite admire the fact your sons says what he thinks out loud it’s so much better than people bitching behind your backs ! I’m hope you get some useful tips x
 
Get him to apologise to the people he's hurt and explain the situation, the ADHD isn't an excuse or a pass, if he's hurt people he needs to apologise
 
Anyone who is worth his time will be able to accept him the way he is. I have this exact problem and people just laugh at me now. My family find it funny but most the time im just being genuine and have no idea what im saying is inappropriate. I know i do it and if people get offended thats they're problem, i just cant help it 🤷‍♀️😂 he definatley does not need to apologise for being himself! Over time you'll get more comfortable with it x
 
My 11 year old has also been told she’s scored high in an adhd test so awaiting it in writing. I can sympathise with you with the no filter bit as my daughter will say some really awful things in public especially if she’s anxious or there are awkward silences. I get starred at and sniggered at but I’ve learnt to ignore and concentrate on my daughter as the public don’t know what is really going on. Some of the things she says are things I’m thinking in my head so I did chuckle in my head on times to make light of it. My daughter has no friends now as she’s burnt her bridges and people find her hard work which I know for a fact is true on times but they are deep down loving kids with traits they have no control over so don’t give yourself a hard time 🙏😃
 
People are so unkind. Especially these days when mental health and such like are still being seen as different! Honestly what you hear, try to ignore the ignorent.... you do what you have to do for you and your family. God bless xx
 
Oh I’m so sorry I know exactly how this feels. My only advice is that those that really know and care for you and your child will forgive and accept. My child has recently been diagnosed with ADHD with autistic traits which has helped us understand these outbursts in the past, they have always apologised if they have hurt someone and have owned the fact that they’ve not thought things through but unfortunately that is not always accepted. Stay close to those that do support you and remember it doesn’t make your child a bad person in the slightest, they are having struggles that no one else can see ❤️
 
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