My Son Is Being Bullied and School Isn't Helping – Seeking Advice on Next Steps

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redrose42

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Hiya can I need help please, my 9 year old son has come home with bruises and he has always said he just plays rough at school...but now has said there are children that have beeb bullying him for over a year...we have told the teacher before and they have done nothing, they actually blamed my son and made him feel sad. He has difficulties making friends as he is sen support. He has said he doesn't look forward to the future anymore and he doesn't know if wants to hurt himself. I'm not taking him too school tomorrow and asking for a meeting, his attendance is already rubbish as he has been saying he doesn't feel well, now I know why...what can i do so I don't get in trouble and I'm also looking at different schools, I am heartbroken as I was bullied every day and it destroyed my whole school years. Thankyou...
.EDIT....I went straight into school and demanded a meeting, they apparently spoke to all the children and they obviously didn't admit to anything...they basically said it was my child's fault for not keeping away from them even though they follow him around, they called him 'weird' at school today and he told the teacher and told him it's his fault for not keeping away from them. I am disgusted that I don't feel they are doing enough, I would homeschool him but I don't feel I know enough to help him and he needs the social aspect too...I feel like I will be the one to get into trouble if I stop him from going.
 
Make an appointment immediately with head teacher
Don’t stand for it
I hate bullies
Don’t be silenced
Yr son needs you to be his voice xxxx
 
@noah_love I agree with this comment, have the bullies dealt with accordingly by the school. Bullying is wrong regardless who's fault it is. Hope you get it sorted my little girl now bigger and ok in high school said she'd rather be in heaven than go to school. Safe to safe I called the school and it was dealt with. I did move her to a different one as she asked me too. She thrived and is doing amazingly x
 
Oh bless him, this makes me so sad 😞
I’d ask for a meeting with the headteacher, I’d also ask your son for the names of the kids that are bullying him and make sure he realises that he’s not going to get into any trouble for telling you who they are.
Kids can be so mean 😢 my 9 year old has also had some trouble recently, he only started his new school in September and does love it but the 3 boys that he sits with in class have told him he’s not allowed to join in with what they’re doing and they’ve told him he’s annoying 😩
 
Contact the safe guarding lead also into the meeting , if there r bruises on ur child that weren't there when u dropped him off and r there wen u pick up with no medical notes or phone calls then they r failing to safe guard ur child whilst in their care! Take pictures and keep a diary ! Xx
 
At that age I'd be finding out which children it is that have been bullying him and would be on their parents doorstep talking to them and would tell them that if it didn't stop I'd be informing the police, I'd also be telling the school that im keeping him off now until the new year and that if somethings not done about bullying in the school I'd be informing the education officer.
 
Ask for their policy on bullying and keep a record of absolutely everything that happens, dates, times etc. I hate bullies so much
 
Contact ofsted. As the school obviously don’t deal with bullying well. I would also look at moving schools, as kids like this won’t stop!! Hate Bullies! 😫
I really hope your son is ok, poor boy 😢 sending love ❤️ it’s a horrible feeling, especially the worry every day… xx
 
School have a duty of care to any child, this is child on child abuse, I'd try speaking with the school (safe guarding team) 1st if you get nowhere then escalate it to the governors/ ofsted/ local authority.
 
My daughter used to be bullied at school and she took up boxing at age 7. Now she's a multi national champion, super focused, smashing school and super confident. She's just turned 14, I hope your wee boy is ok
 
I suggest getting him into therapy asap. Childhood depression is a big deal, so that should be addressed. And take to highest level of school, they are allowing assault in their school!
 
I hope u get it sorted no child should feel unwanted by others take it as high as u can and please can parents teach there children to be kind merry Christmas 🎄🎄
 
My grandson who was 13 was being picked on at school done nothing to help so we pulled him out of school home tutoring nowadays you can’t be to careful what some boys are carrying better safe than sorry good luck
 
In my experience you're looking for a solution the school is unable to provide. They won't change for the "few" and they certainly won't apply enough effort with already stretched resources to help one or even a few children.
I'm sorry if that's not the answer you are looking for but the sooner you hear it the better and it will allow you to start looking at alternative solutions you can control. You are right to withdraw your child right away. While he is off over the next few weeks look into home educating and the benefits/statistics for SEN children. I understand this is not a solution for all but it may be the beginning of something truly wonderful for your child. X
 
@mila i came here to suggest the very same thing. We homeschooled for a while due to health reasons, but if i caught wind of bullying my kids would be pulled away and joining homeschool groups again - more nurturing and supportive of their individual needs and interests
 
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