Best Housework Tips & Self-Care Secrets!

[wondering55]

@msrambrose THIS XX

 

[randks]

So depressing how normalised it is for this post to be to the attention of Mums only and not the other 50% of adults in households with kids. That is a huge huge part of the problem and crazy burnout for Mums. Recommend the fairplay card deck for equity in partnerships even if you have different responsibilities.

 

[livin4thelord]

@randks OP doesn’t state if there is another adult in the home.

 

[grcafterburner]

@randks I should have mentioned that my husband is fantastic, he helps as much as he can when he is home - however my point is more that I want to feel in control of something, I want to be in control of my home and feel at peace, I want to be able to do this for my family

 

[randks]

@grcafterburner that is great to hear. I was more thinking generally about how there are a lot of posts like this (I feel the same in my house too btw and have not nailed it!) and really the posts should be for the attention of all parents rather than just Mums and it would be nice to see more Dads replying and sharing the load and responsibility, owning it not just ‘helping’. It was just a general observation about the assumptions society has trained us to make, not at all critical of your post as in reality the Mums are the right ones to ask. Eg the five minute mum is great but why not the five minute parent? Places all the emphasis on Mums! Just makes me sad we aren’t more progressive in 2023.

 

[larzzral]

Give up on the housework until they move out ! Mum of 5 here ranging from 15 years to 5 months and there is definitely not a hack that works! So leave the housework and take whatever relaxation time you can for you to be the best parent you can! They’re only little for a short period of time enjoy it xx

 

[grcafterburner]

@larzzral that is very true

 

[maniel]

Big clean once a week then I just maintain it.
When the kids are showering in the evening I'll clean the kitchen and dishes, run the hoover over downstairs.
I shower last and clean the bathroom after I'm done (usually in a towel )
Beds get changed once a week
I do 1 load of washing a day, dry it and fold it in the laundry basket.
The next day when I have a load on I'll put yesterday's washing away ready for the next clean load to take its place.
I iron once a week (usually on a Sunday) I do all the kids uniforms and will tell them anything else they want/need ironing bring it down or it don't get done.
I empty the inside bins once/twice a week. Always on a Thursday ready for bin day Friday.
No clutter, if it don't have a home it's going in the bin!
Maintaining a house should be team work, I tell all mine if their washing isn't in the basket it don't get done. If you don't bring me your ironing on a Sunday again it don't get done. If you run out of pants because you can't be bothered to put them in the wash basket tough luck!
I've learned after many years running around after my own they can be responsible for their own things. Putting clothes in the washing basket and taking plats/cups to the sink, hanging towels in the bathroom and putting things away after themselves. If they don't they get 1 reminder and that's it!
My sanctuary is walking the dog, it's my 1 hourish a day I get to myself for some peace and quiet! And every 6 weeks I'll get my toes painted (only because I can't do them myself due to nerve damage in my spine)
But I'm pretty immaterial lol
My advice is to ALWAYS make time for yourself, the housework will still be there tomorrow. Also always keep get well soon cards about so visitors make allowances for mess

 

[xiimkix]

I clean every day and tidy as I go. I tend to put my girl's toys away at the end of the night and ensure everything has a place. Messiness stresses me out so it's easy for me to keep on top of it as I'm happier that way and more relaxed, but defo do the basics every day and it helps.

 

[xiimkix]

I do most of the housework because I finish earlier than my husband and work from home 4 days per week so I do it on my lunch or soon as I finish.
At the weekends, we share what needs done or one looks after our girl whilst the other tidies and cleans.

 

[imburning]

It sounds obvious but be kind to yourself. Lower your expectations- if something can be done badly its better than not getting done at all x

 

[milmil]

Just do what you can when you have the energy or can be bothered. I used to spend hours and hours everyday cleaning my house and 1 day I just said yano what I can't be bothered anymore it's taking over my life. So now yes my house is a little more "lived in" but I get time for myself and it's needed. X

 

[ronaldo0019]

@milmil are you for real... lived in your house is beautiful I refuse to deep clean every day like I used to with four of them !xx

 

[milmil]

@ronaldo0019 il show u a video of it now if u want lol there's piles of washing all over the place!!! Xx

 

[ronaldo0019]

@milmil at least your boys are a bit older now .... I have a toddler who likes to get dinner plates out every two seconds xx

 

[milmil]

@ronaldo0019 love her xxx

 

[joshua_777]

Prioritise the coffee and Me time. The cleaning can wait xx

 

[confusedstepdad]

Sit down, enjoy your coffee , there's a difference between a house being lived in and a house that's just a tip , coffee first

 

[grcafterburner]

@confusedstepdad yeah I mean it’s not a tip it’s definitely lived in though, it just stresses me as I thrive when it’s tidy

 

[confusedstepdad]

@grcafterburner sweetheart life is too short, as my grannie used to tell me ... your house will be there a lot longer than you , so coffee break first .. always