Managing Friendships and ADHD in a Teenager

My sons only 15 so no help really. But he has adhd,ODD and asd.he is just the same,he wont go anywhere with us so sits in his room all day long,when he does come out it's just to annoy and wind his siblings up. He's very vulnerable so social side of things is a nightmare, he is in his last year of a special needs school but he doesn't make friends easily as he doesnt know how to properly communicate to maintain friendships. I cant think how he will end up as hes older as it worries me x
 
@judahreese I'm exactly the same , in worry as my son is 10, and I'm Audhd & my life is like my son's now, but my son's support needs are far greater and i worry so much, where it makes me ill, so sadly I've no answers, but to just let you know, that I fully understand the worry and anxiety as a mum that we have xx
 
@judahreese exactly, as my daughter I should worry for more, but when he's still in nappies and won't leave his room, pre-speaking it's hard,
So I really hope, that we find inner peace by seeing them happy, flourishing and being able to not be as vulnerable, & when adults so definitely I understand & sadly you do too, as its not Easy life, let alone the worries we have and more xx so sending the biggest virtual hug xx
 
As much exercise as possible really helps - literally anything that he would enjoy. Plus anything mindful, calming - walks out in nature etc but v hard to get teens to do this!!!
 
My sons 14 and is like this honestly his REAL friends will understand others won't.my son has a couple friends and a couple girl friends and he can be nasty to them but when he's off his meds and they understand its not him and that's not the person he is.they know he will never apologise as he just can't but they stick by him xx
 
Hi, my son has adhd, nearly 16 and sounds exactly like yours! He has very few real friends and can only manage 1:1 with them and he often accidentally annoys them and they choose to do things with other people or in a group and then he is hurt/rejected. He cannot manage in groups and never chooses to go out in one. He suffers with low mood and says he can’t be his true self around friends as it makes him anxious and then they wouldn’t like him even more. It’s so tough. He has started work (builders labourer Saturdays and holidays) and this has been a huge positive for him, he can cope with the adults company better and feels he has a purpose and is being physical and useful. He also loves using the gym which helps as there are like minded people there.
Maybe see if he likes the idea of a job? Or some structured fitness? Sending love and strength, it’s a tough job ❤️ xxx
 
My son has autism, and I could of wrote this about him. He's 14, and has always struggled socially, he has such high anxiety about things, even the simplest of things, e.g hair cut etc.
Have you got access to cahms or anything like that? We are just starting that process, along with Youth Intervention. It's so hard, as you just need advice & support. Unfortunately there a lack of both in most areas.
Hope you manage to get the help you need x
 
This is quite typical and one of the saddest symtoms of adhd I think. My 16 year old son is the same....he is sociable, loving and the life and soul of the party everywhere he goes. But friendships have been fickle.....he'll have a best friend that will ultimately end up cutting him off after he's gone too far or a fight or something happens. It also makes me sad so feel your pain. I'm just hoping they find their people who love them for who they are and understand them x
 
@nemoiglooI’m not sure what therapy best? He’s had 1:1 support for about 12 weeks emotional literacy, maybe should see about more
 
@pastor4jesus if you haven't thought about medication it does help. Is there any group sessions he can go to with other teenagers? Does he like any sports or anything? Do you know any other kids same age with ADHD.
 
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