pastor4jesus
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Thank you for the replies, really appreciate it. He is medicated but will only take it for school / hopefully college from Sept. Refuses any other time and can’t force him, does help.
Hi, I’m after some advice from others who have older teenagers with ADHD or older children to give me hope!
My 16 year old really struggles with friendships, has done his whole life and I find it totally heartbreaking. He’s so impulsive and so says whatever in the moment. Currently none of his small circle speaking to him because of it and with not going back to school he won’t see them to sort it. He likes to wind people up on purpose, us at home included but I’m his mum and love him so try let it go over our heads but then gets upset when they react to that. He is mentally about 11/12 really.
He’s been worrying since about year 10 he’ll end up with no friends once he leaves school with them all going different places. He just doesn’t see his behaviour pushes people away and so he’s not invited places so the summer hols, unless we have gone away, feel like it’s mainly been spent on Xbox. He won’t go out with me and I just end up with massive mum guilt. (Me and his dad aren’t together)
Please tell me things improve as they get older as I’m struggling to see it. I’m just visualising him ending up most of his life with no friends, doesn’t get to go out and will end up alone in his bedroom forever playing Xbox or something. It’s affecting my mental health in terms of awful anxiety over his future, poor sleep because of it then it makes me tired and grumpy and it’s a viscious circle. Any advice? What are your adhd teens like? Thank you.
Thank you for the replies, really appreciate it. He is medicated but will only take it for school / hopefully college from Sept. Refuses any other time and can’t force him, does help.
Hi, I’m after some advice from others who have older teenagers with ADHD or older children to give me hope!
My 16 year old really struggles with friendships, has done his whole life and I find it totally heartbreaking. He’s so impulsive and so says whatever in the moment. Currently none of his small circle speaking to him because of it and with not going back to school he won’t see them to sort it. He likes to wind people up on purpose, us at home included but I’m his mum and love him so try let it go over our heads but then gets upset when they react to that. He is mentally about 11/12 really.
He’s been worrying since about year 10 he’ll end up with no friends once he leaves school with them all going different places. He just doesn’t see his behaviour pushes people away and so he’s not invited places so the summer hols, unless we have gone away, feel like it’s mainly been spent on Xbox. He won’t go out with me and I just end up with massive mum guilt. (Me and his dad aren’t together)
Please tell me things improve as they get older as I’m struggling to see it. I’m just visualising him ending up most of his life with no friends, doesn’t get to go out and will end up alone in his bedroom forever playing Xbox or something. It’s affecting my mental health in terms of awful anxiety over his future, poor sleep because of it then it makes me tired and grumpy and it’s a viscious circle. Any advice? What are your adhd teens like? Thank you.