World Book Day: It's About Encouraging Reading, Not Costume Competitions!

@pensfan870 hmmmm saying all the mums on this page with their yay me parenting moments is pretty judgemental tbh & certainly gives the impression that it is her with problem. Because as I stated, it doesn't matter the outfit but saying things like that about mums isn't nice at all & definitely screams it's her with a problem. Not all of us.
 
@pensfan870 “But from posts I’ve seen more often than not it’s about parents making the best costume (even if it has nothing to do with a book)”
Nothing in that statement that encourages live and let live, it’s quite judgmental actually.
 
@pensfan870 but she’s calling it a ‘yay me’ moment, which when taken in the tone of her message heavily implies the parents are just bragging. They may quite rightly just be feeling proud of themselves and their children. Which is just as ok and acceptable as someone who doesn’t or can’t do the same thing. None of it is wrong, none of it matters. But why does it have to be made into a passive aggressive one against the other. Posting something you’re proud of or you think may give other people ideas doesn’t automatically make it a ‘yay me’ moment. What if the parent posting their ‘yay me’ is having a really bad time and they feel like sharing something positive will help them, she’s made ‘yay me’ sound like a bad thing when in fact, ‘yay me’ should be perfectly acceptable, why can’t we big up something we are proud of without it causing a problem with others who don’t or can’t? No one knows what is going on with others. She could have very easily given the same message to reassure one group of people without tarnishing it with a sly dig at another.
 
@sorter I get that it has a slight derogatory undertone, and perhaps she is feeling a bit down about things herself and that's why she wanted to support others in her camp, but for the most of it she says if you had time, great! If you didn't, also great! I personally love seeing the posts of what people did with their dress ups, mostly because it inspires me with ideas for what I could do, and also because it's super cute, and I am a believer too that if people put themselves out to do something great they should be allowed to be proud of it without being put down by somebody who didn't make the effort. But I do also get that a lot of people are struggling with their mental health now days , especially when it comes to social media where everybody only posts their best moments, so when you are struggling and down it's very easy to feel much worse about yourself if you were say for example working a couple of jobs to survive that just didn't allow for time to pull an amazing costume together as much as you wanted to. Me personally my son wanted to be a crank from the maze runner, so I got up half an hour earlier that day and we tore and burnt his clothes and painted his face ,and he was the happiest he's ever been with a costume, he wouldn't have wanted anything else, so I didn't need to do a big build for a costume. And really anyone could get up half an hour earlier to do that - BUT not everyone has face paint or the ability to use it, and if people are in a dark place they might not even have the mental capacity to do this . I totally back the proud posts of the awesome costumes, I love it and hope it continues, but I just see the point of view of this poster that they're just offering support to those that are in a delicate place and could need an emotional boost by someone reassuring them it's ok. So I don't think there's any need to attack the poster for this, who could be, as you say, having a problem themselves
 
@pensfan870 totally get what you're saying & I do agree to an extent but I was always taught don't put your shit on other people in order to make yourself feel better & I'm sorry but I believe that's what she's doing. As you say everyone has something going on these days, everyone is struggling in some way but to post like this I don't think there was a need for it. She should've changed the way she worded things because you don't need to drag other ppl down to lift yourself (& supposed others) up.
 
@cameria yes I do agree with you totally. No one should be judging anyone's behaviour really, and I agree people should be able to share their achievements without a negative backlash. I just think the poster was more trying to support people who might be feeling down they couldn't provide a costume this year, and I didn't think it was necessary for people to jump on and be so aggressive towards the poster, they could have just scrolled past.
 
@pensfan870 that's how I read it. I'm a mum of 5 that's done all of the above apart from show off lol and it was actually my kids that didn't need anything making/buying/throwing together this year thankfully.
 
@sorter I wanted to write exactly what u said but I couldn’t be arsed so thank u for doing it for me. I don’t know why everyone thinks it’s a competition just do what you can
 
I thought the same. I love making things and showing them off, not sure how people get upset/offended over people sharing their kids costumes, i love seeing people's creations and can't wait to make proper costumes when my boy is older! This year I just made him some bunny ears, dressed him in beige and put a jean jacket on him 😂 he's only 14 months x
 
Stefie Bell but why? Why are you using your time to join in at having a dig at what others have done just because you don’t like it. Cringey/inappropriate/wannabee influencer/identical Wednesdays and boys in a dress. Why be judgmental and degrading against other people. They are doing no harm by posting their costumes and ideas. The only people doing harm here are the ones choosing to put others down for their efforts or what they choose to show/do. You have decided what you think counts as inspirational and exactly what this group is for. But what you find right for the group and what others do, doesn’t have to be the same thing. Take any inspiration away that suits you and let others do the same. You don’t have to put others down to do that. This was meant to be an inclusive supportive group, but it’s being tarnished by people who can’t resist putting others down.
 
We popped the bits out of some sunglasses and put some fairy lights in a candle holder (Sophie from BFG)
Other daughter told me what she wanted to wear & just went through her books for something that matched 🫣
 
Our school told the parents that kids had to be in uniform, no costumes. They still had lots of fun and did lots of World Book Day activities 👍
 
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