Managing Phone Use and Bedtime for Teenager Sharing a Room

[kateikins]

@igivemylife2jesus I'd rather my kid read than be on the phone though.

 

[igivemylife2jesus]

@kateikins well yes, but not quite as late as it can be!

 

[ruddcs7]

@igivemylife2jesus I get that, but yes, tbf. I would rather reading than phone right in front of her eyes. Xx

 

[gina99mark5]

My son is 18, daughter is 14. Tell her I have family link on their phones& they turn off at 9pm and they can't use them until 7.30am the next morning. They also have a set amount of hours a day and no social media. She might think your rules are fair in comparison ( my kids aren't bothered by not having s.m & we have family time in the evenings, watching a show together where we can discuss or laugh together.) Daughter goes to bed about 9.30 pm and I watch an older show with my son(making the most of it whilst I can) for an hour or so.

 

[jewellcastaneda]

@gina99mark5 you turn off your 18 year old's phone? He's an adult

 

[gina99mark5]

@jewellcastaneda I asked him what he wanted me to do when he turned 18. He said keep it in place as it stops him using it all night. I've set my own phone up to switch off at 9pm as well so I'm not saying one thing and doing another.

 

[merriweather]

@gina99mark5 sensible young man

 

[va2ba]

@gina99mark5 omg how do you set up Turning their phones off that’s a brilliant idea x

 

[gina99mark5]

@va2ba install the family link app on their phone through your phone. You can set times for use and block apps and have the phone switch off every evening until morning. It was the only way they were allowed a phone. We have family time every evening.. We're currently watching criminal minds together.

 

[tgpoa]

My 17 year old twins have their fones in their room and they have to be off and lights out by 11.30 rhey have been gops and stuck to it to be fair.. as they knew they wud get some form of grounding for it and their friends are all the same x

 

[ronnyt]

Shouldn't be the same rules for 12 year old vs a 16 year old. She'll be driving next year so I would start to loosen the grip personally (I am not saying stay up all night on her phone but talking and compromise). Treat her like the young adult she is.

 

[ruddcs7]

@ronnyt it's not same rules for 12 year old and 16 year old. She comes off her phone at 11. My 12 year old is asleep way before 11 o'clock. I have compromised previously by letting her take it up and trusting she will turn it off etc. 6am in the morning and then going to school falling asleep in mock exams etc etc. She had it upstairs a few nights ago was on it all night and fell asleep at a cafe in town... Still doesn't learn. And it disturbs my other daughter. X

 

[zenia]

At 16 you need to start being classed as a young adult. If we control our children they don't learn the consequences that staying up all night on your phone brings. It's hard but small steps to adult hood helps. In 2years she could be off to uni, me at 16 did lots of things my parents didn't know.

 

[sarah92083]

My 15 year old (16 in September) has his “all the time” as he uses it for his alarm. We have a 9pm cut off for noise so any devices/gaming/tv are all on low or headphones so we don’t disturb others. That goes for everyone, including adults.
Anyone else doing something isn’t a valid reason why something is allowed - they know this and don’t bother to use it. When they did in the past, it was an automatic no from me, merely because they wanted to do it because someone else did.
Neither of my children are on screens until late though. 15 year old maybe at the weekend but as long as he’s quiet I don’t worry.
It’s your house and your children though, but we’ve learnt that sometimes they need to make their own mistakes in order to see things from a different perspective.

 

[music_love%E2%99%AA]

Your house Your rules..I'm 100% with you x

 

[murikami]

My sons same age and they have there phones the 12yr old goes bed first them the older one. She is 16 and an adult if she wants to stay up let her she has no school she will learn

 

[prayersword]

My 13 year always has his phone but we have rules. It gets switched off at 830 and he watches a film.
Although I think 1am is a little late. I think by taking it off her altogether when she goes to bed is a bit harsh

 

[pretty_l]

I've always taught mine self control, if they stay up all night on it, and are tired the next day, they know why. But then I've done the same with bedtimes in general, sleep when you're tired, I used to hate it as a kid laid in bed for hours not tired.

 

[luvait]

My 16 year old daughter will still be awake on her phone at 6am if I don't take it off her! Can you not download a parent app that allows you to restrict her phone from yours at a certain time? Maybe not 1 am but 11ish? Xxx

 

[rebyosef]

What time is bedtime? Is there any way of compromising?