Managing Phone Use and Bedtime for Teenager Sharing a Room

@donadorina I have family link too and my kids have accepted the rules around it. I've told them they can curse me to their friends if they get asked why they haven't got any s.m to save face, but they didn't want to do that and have said they don't use it, bless them.
 
@gina99mark5 it makes me sad that teenagers seem obsessed with social media and it's so toxic.
I might change my mind when he starts college in September but for now it's not necessary
 
It's up to you. I wouldn't be concerned with what others are allowed to do. Family Link let's you set screen time, time on apps and "bedtime", which locks the phone at a given time. If you're worried she will be up later than you'd like her to be, you can set it up so the phone locks at a certain time.
 
Stick to your rules. Abuse happened at night, you will have no control over it time /content. They need sleep, and it is a bad habit and sleep depravation is hard to deal with after long time.
 
@messi10 this is what I've said to her. The rule is there to protect them and promote good sleeping habits. But I'm being unfair... its her sleep not mine 🤦‍♀️ xx
 
I agree completely but if she don’t give in maybe just allow her to be on it all night once and get her up early the next morning she will soon realise how crap she feels because she is tired x
My boys are 8 and 12 my 12 year old will turn his phone off and go to sleep but my 8year old would literally be awake all night on it and he has actually been caught with his iPad on in the middle of the night I got up in the night as my 3yr old woke up and I checked in on my boys and see him on his iPad was around 3/4am I went mad and now he isn’t allowed his iPad in his room but the next day I got him up earlier then usual and he was so tired I felt awful but it also showed him I’m not being mean when I say he needs to be go to bed it’s because he needs a certain amount of sleep to function the next day he then realised x
 
@va2ba yes, she has done the same thing. She was going to school sometimes on no sleep at all as she was sneaking her devices once we were sleeping. She didn't learn. Xx
 
That’s exactly what I made him do go to school with no sleep I felt awful doing it but had to do it ahh well If she hasn’t learnt from that then 100% doing the right thing sometimes we have to be a mean parent for their own sake x
 
Literally just had this argument with my nearly 15 year old. I don't let phones upstairs in their bedroom. I try to set an example and I find it hard!
You have your rules and they have justifiable reasons. When she moves put, she can stay on it as much as she likes!
 
I have an app called family link and you set it up and you can set if so their phones turn off at a certain time and the only way to control it is from your phone, you could maybe compromise and say 11pm and then it locks and opens again at 7 am
 
@amber11e I had that, she then changed the account that was logged into her phone. She does have phone till around 11, she wants it all night. She's saying 1am, but she literally will be on it till 6 in the morning 🙈 xx
 
@ruddcs7 I was going to say family link too.
Compromise then say she can have it until a certain time, then you will switch it off if she changes accounts then she loses the phone x
 
@amber11e can I ask do your kids have iPhones? I have one with a Samsung and one with iPhone I can’t seem to get family link on the one with the iphone
 
Same rule for my 15 and 17 year olds - they're still kids, and we're responsible for teaching them how to have good sleep habits and online habits.
 
I leave mine to it, they sleep when tired but on a school night we do go in and remind them at 11
Sharing a room is more difficult, I guess I’d try and see how it goes. It’s most likely a novelty and not as bad as you think
 
My daughter has just finished gcse but we've never had bed time on weekend or holiday so she has her ay night. But she has no younger siblings xx
 
Rules are made for breaking… the more you try to enforce the rule, the more they will try to go against you… my 13 year old realised when I turned his phone off that I couldn’t turn off his books! He will now read until the early hours 🙄
 
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