Christmas Spending & the True Spirit of the Season 🎄

[mandah86]

Just a PSA
It does not matter what you spend on your children/family for Christmas

whether that be £1000 or £100! IT DOES NOT MATTER! No matter your budget or what you buy all that matters is yourself and your loved ones.
If you want to or can afford to spend thousands on your children, that’s fine

If you want to or can afford to spend £100 on your children, thats fine

Let’s not bring anyone down, some maybe able to afford to spend a lot of money and that’s perfectly okay, others are not so fortunate and again that’s perfectly okay. Times are hard enough without judgement from others.

 

[youthpastor10]

Totally agree.
I don’t even ask my brother what he spends on my niece - he doesn’t ask me what I spend on my kids.
It’s not something I even discuss with friends
It just seems a “new” trend on groups like this.
It’s irrelevant what anyone else spends - don’t get into debt, spend what u can afford, new or second hand - it doesn’t matter. And enjoy Christmas - that’s what it’s about.

 

[blessedintervent]

@youthpastor10 i think people mostly who want to brag ask the question.

 

[youthpastor10]

@blessedintervent sad people feel the need to want to make others feel if they can’t afford much - esp with the cost of living at the minute. just to make themselves feel good

 

[blessedintervent]

@youthpastor10 they should make there self's feel good by buying gifts for those less fortunate.

 

[youthpastor10]

@blessedintervent totally agree.

 

[mr_banjo]

I don't think I've ever had a conversation with friends or family about how much we spend on our respective children for Christmas or birthday presents. Wouldn't occur to me.

 

[youthpastor10]

@mr_banjo no - that’s what I mean.
I may say to friends “oh I picked this up today” - but it isn’t bragging it’s just chatter about what u have picked up when been out and about - or a bargain or something.
Tbh - I couldn’t care less what my friends or family spend, it’s none of my business

 

[mattuntom]

Well said. We all have our own budget and our own beliefs. Spend what you feel is right. As long as your not getting in debt then that’s the main thing. I always try to go for quality over quantity. I’ve learnt threw out the years not to get loads of useless tat to make up the quantity.

 

[candi44]

@mattuntom i have just said this on another comment where its quality and quantity as its about how much one present costs than hoe many is there x

 

[mattuntom]

@candi44 when I first became a mom (12 years ago) I use to make sure he had so much and would go to b and m, pound land ect and just make it up with loads of little bits. I’ve realised it’s just all a waste and they don’t need it.

 

[candi44]

@mattuntom YES exactly!!! Couldnt have put it better myself at all! X

 

[stephmomof3]

Oh you know it just makes you feel bad I feel my kids have a decent amount of presents but then my friend spends thousands more than me and I feel awful xx

 

[sandraesso]

Couldn't agree more how much you spend is irrelevant xxxx

 

[noheartjusthead]

I have reined in spending this year not that I spent loads but I just think I want to get gifts that will actually get played with instead of stuff just to make it look more that never gets played with. Spend what you want/or have but being with your friends and family is way more important

 

[lifeisbliss]

I think the way the world is at the moment everyone is finding money tough both sides of the coin. We are conditioned to fear everything with the ‘cost of living’ and there are families who may have read that post and feel completely and utterly defeated when they have to work for an hour to afford butter, that’s how serious this has got for some people. Everyone just needs to be kind and many are probably looking for reassurance that what they are doing is ok. It’s just the world right now. As long as you love your children and make some memories just make the best Christmas for you and your current situation. I just feel for the whole of the UK this Christmas. Food prices are crippling many and wages are not in line. Very worrying for parents who are just trying to do the very best they can with what they have.

 

[blessyourheart]

Totally agree, every year has been different for us. Some years better than others, sometimes I cry wondering how to afford it while others I say we'll do ok. My kids have never mentioned how much we spent, a few years I asked what their favourite things about Christmas, they both said putting the tree up and spending time together playing. Both asked at different ages and different times! Tbh as long as I buy pringles and matchmakers they are happy, no lie! Because I never buy them any other time, it's the simple things they remember xx

 

[snipekiller]

 

[lullublue1]

Well said! Dislike posts about how much to spend etc! I won’t say what I spend as it’s my business and know everyone is different, we should just focus on the day with our little families and making it special whatever way we can xx

 

[thecross98]

It's same every year. I've got to point where I don't even put a tree up. Years of working retail will soon knock the Xmas spirit out of you.